Hello to ALL!
I'm Patty. . . I would love to be a part of a weight loss/TTC buddy group! I've got a lot of extra weight that deserves to come off and I'm just a wee-bit overwhelmed and impatient. . . (I want it off now!) I have four beautiful children--hence the extra weight and have felt for a while now that our family deserves to be blessed by a new little bundle of joy. In the past I was the one who drank the water and got PG, so this TTC stuff is very new to me. I wonder if my weight or my age (33) has anything to do with the fact that after 7 months we still have no results. . .hmmmm. Anyways, my body deserves to be healthy and losing weight would be a great place to start so here I am! I am open to any and ALL you feel I deserve to know! I look forward to making some new online girlfriends and can't wait to get fit-n-fertile! Have a great day/week and good luck to all!
-Patty

Hi Patty:

I am overweight to but partially because I have PCOS and am insulin resistant. My dietician said to stop eating everything white, Only eat 90 g of carbs a day (which should come from Wheat and nut type breads and pasta) and lots of vegetables and water. Since drinking the water has been successful for you in the past , I found 8-16 glasses a day to help durastically with the weight loss. A year ago February I lost 15 pounds in one month doing the above. Then I went to Hawaii with DH and lost 5 pounds just because we hiked about 4-5 miles a day and snorkeled the other part of it. I ate everything I wanted and still lost weight on that trip. I think part of it was NO STRESS. I see a new RE tomorrow. Here is hoping he has some new excercise ideas for me, I am still healing from a busted leg 4 inch by 4 inch laceration below knee. I finally have skin but still scarred and causing some swelling in the leg and veins.

Heres to weight loss and PG at 33. (Oh yah, I am 33 also, but I have had 5 yrs ttc, 1 MC in 2004, 4 IUI's one clomid assisted and possibly aiming for IVF tomorrow.) Let me know if you want an online diet buddy, I am in if you are? I respond well to competition if thats your style, or I can just share and listen to you share if preferred.
-Candy

Hi Candy.
You can count me in!!! My only issue right now is that I am only online one day a week (Tuesday) at work. If it doesn't bother you to hear from me only on Tuesdays, you've got a buddy! So where do we start??? I am willing to share personal email and phone numbers if you are. Let me know today if possible and have a beautiful day!
Love & Blessings,
Patty

Patty:

Lets start on Monday, that way I will have time to get a scale, which I have been avoiding for awhile. My dietician told me to stay away from all things white, potatos, rice, pasta, white bread, things containing sugar. Tuesday is fine but my home email is totallyhuman71@sbcglobal.net, email me then I will be happy to give you my phone number and or address that way if you would like. Also, my Reproductive Endocrinologist suggested I walk one hour every day 5 days a week minimum. When you email me I will send you a new one back with my beginning weight and height. Then we can fess up weekly and share secrets and hard falls on what works and what doesn't and the number of pounds we lose each week.

This sounds fun.
-Candy

Hi Candy,

I want to join you, as Patty is already pregnant, she will be in weight gaining club (Congrats Patty!!!).

I am obese you can see my posting "I am 217 lb, just had a failed FET.. Need suggestions", I lost 3 lb after changing my diet and starting my fitness program.

Going to a dietician this weekend, I am pretty sure she will ask me the same that your doctor asked.

I am looking for online buddy.. if you are still interested we can share our email ids.

Sri

Sri:

I would love to, I was starting to wonder what happened to Patty, she never did email me. Please feel free to send me an email. What days are good for you and I will make sure to check in on that day. I just turned 33 and am 230 5'6" so the doctor said I have to lose 15 pounds prior to my IVF procedure, but I am aiming for 60lbs total at least. My birthday cake threw me for a couple of days but I have lost 5.5 pounds already and plan to start walking regimen tomorrow. My friend is going to lend me the walk away the pounds video.

-Candy

Patty:

Congratulations! How far along are you? Are you still going to be walking etc? The dietician put me on a sugar free diet and no white foods basically stay with the multigrains, can you do that while your PG?

Sorry I didn't hear you were PG until Sri told me today.
When I was PG last time before my MC I lost weight the whole time, but maybe you just want to only gain Baby weight? Did you have to take any meds to get PG?
-Candy

Can I join the weight loss club????

I am 5'9 and 217 lbs.... I just weighed in at the doctors office. I think I am losing in an okay manner so far. I started out at 230 on 5/18/06. Then on 6/14/06 I weighed in at 222. Now on 6/26/06 I am 217. I am proud of myself though I seem to get to about 210 and then plummet back up 20 lbs. I work as a store manager for Starbucks Coffee so I am constantly walking and moving so that has contributed to my weight loss.

I am actually accepting a Managerial position for ADP come the beginning of July so my walking will definitely slow down. When it came to IUI or IVF, my RE in Southern California - Pacific Reproductive Center never advised of weight loss but in my heart I think it has become the problem of my infertility. So since I won't be walking, I will be hitting the gym 3 times a week to walk 1 mile. And yup, I mean walk... I am out of shape... hehehe :D

My family doctor who specialises in weight loss told me to walk 10,000 steps a day. I thought that was a lot but when I bought a stepometer and tracked how many steps I do in a mile, it came out to 2,000. So it calculates to 5 miles a day. 5 miles a day can be a lot but my doctor said that if you walk the treadmill at a 5% incline at a 3.5 rate, it would take you 20 minutes to walk a mile. So, if your like me and need a break in between walks.... :dancing: You can space out your miles to doing 2,000 steps and work....

I am down for weighing in.... :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

So far like I said, I am:
5'9 @ 217 lbs.
size 36 in men's or 14 in women's

Sorry for all the babbling!!!

Shay
star10_over@yahoo.com

Hi Candy-
Forgive me for not getting back to you. My email box was chuck-full and while cleaning out, I deleted some by mistake. No I didn't take any med to get PG. And as of this week, I am 7 weeks. . .only 33 more to go! LOL I see Doc tomorrow and will be discussing diet and stuff with him. I want to do whatever is going to get me a healthy baby. I have been eating better than I ever have been now and drinking tons of H2O, still not down on the exercise yet, it's just so hot here in Arizona, and whenever it's cool enought to go walking I'm sooo tired! I don't get morning sickness, just really, really tired all the time! So, to answer your question, I'm not sure at this point what i will be doing, but would love to keep in touch just for fun no matter what I do?? What do you think?

Have a great day to all!
Love and Blessings,
Patty

Patty:

You are welcome anytime of course. Congratulations again.

Shay and Sri:

Lets have weigh in on Mondays, Thank you Shay for the walking advice. Since I busted my leg in February, I am only up to walking right now too. My Dr. suggested 1 hour a day and since I live near the sand dunes and the beach, I am planning to walk half an hour up the dunes and the other half near the water on the way back as often as my DH and dogs can come with me. Since I can only walk one at a time, and they cry when I seperate them, I will be walking with my girlfriend around the corner at least two days a week.

-Candy

Candy,

Monday weigh ins is cool.

Is anyone comfortable to list current stats:

Shay 24
Started out 230 - Current Weight 217
Side 14

13 lbs lost and counting

May I join in? I started a different thread but this one has more ladies. I would like to do weekly weigh ins too!

I am 5'4 @170 lbs (started at ?170? on 6/18)
Size 14 to 16
DX unexplained IF
Now on IUI # 3 (clomid and injectables)

The more the merrier! Mondays it is!

I am 5'6"Started on 06/15/06 at 246 (while on AF)
235-240 I haven't weighed in over a week so I maybe on the low end.
Size 18-20 due to my huge arms,
sleeveless - 16-18 womens.
DX minor PCOS/left hydrosalpinx
4 IUI's 1-Clomid assisted, 1 MC 01/12/04
Having LAP mid July to remove left fallopian tube
Hope to start IVF in Aug if ovulating on right side.

Any of you going to have IVF in Aug? I am also looking for a Aug cycle buddy for the procedure.

-Candy

Candy,

I am doing an IUI tomorrow and an IUI in July... If all else fails... I will be in a Aug. cycle for IVF again.

Shay(24) DH(45) Sever Male Factor / Bad Quality Egg
TTC#1 for 3 years - CA resident
Medical Insurance covered
6 IUI/Clomid 100%
3 IVF/ICSI 100%
***No more insurance coverage***

IUI/Clomid#1 5/5/05 Chemical Pregnancy
IUI/Clomid#2 6/8/05 BFN
IUI/Clomid#3 7/8/05 BFN

IVF#1 9/8/05 Chemical
IVF#2 10/15/05 Chemical Pregnancy
IVF#3 3/11/06 - BFN

IUI/No Meds 6/29/06 (Hubby's Birthday)

Shay

Shay:
Whats a chemical PG? So are you using a donor egg? What part of CA do you live in?
Yeh! Unmedicated Go Girl! I am praying your 2ww goes fast and ends in BFP! Happy Birthday dear Shay DH!! And may you be a daddy by your next B-Day!!!!!
-Candy

My analog scale at home was not calibrated right. I finally got batteries for my digital scale yesterday and it turns out I am 170 not 165 - i new it sounded too good to be true :( . So now I don't know what weight I started with on 6/18, I will just assume it was 170.

Aster- Its ok!

Since I am going away for the weekend, I got on today and already lost 2 pounds since last week, so excited because my birthday was this week and I ate a piece of cake everyday this week for lunch. Hopefully that means next week (No Cake) will result in another 3-4. That means 239 for me. I will log in again Monday if I make it home in time with fireworks and everything, you never know we may stay another day at the cabin.
-Candy

Hannah-Candy,
A chemical Pregnancy means you started out pregnant but your development never made it to a baby with a heartbeat. So any pregnancy that dies off before a heartbeat was ever detected is mainly considered a chemical pregnancy. In my case, my embryos never fully implanted. It started to implant and made my Beta HCG levels increase but after a few days, my embryos fell off and my Beta numbers started to drop.

DH and I are doing to try IUI’s with my eggs and his sperm for a few tries… If all else fails, I will do an Egg Donor IVF cycle in September-October.

Thanks for those who wished DH a happy birthday. We actually did the IUI on his birthday so hears to BFP’s!!!

Shay

I am at 169 lb today. So, I can count 1 lb weight loss for the week.

Ate a lot yestarday - we had friends over for dinner and of course I could not resist. i am being good today and going to work out.

Had my ultrasound/bloodwork today - i have 3 good size follicles but not ready to trigger yet. Will do another shot of FSH tonight and then for another ultrasound/bloodwork tomorrow. I hope i can trigger tomorrow so that i do my IUI on Thursday. we are going out of town on Saturday, so i have to get this IUI done before then! Comon follicles, I am on the deadline!

Shay - good luck with your IUI.

Hey Everyone - I need to jump on a scale and I will post my current weight. I think I gained.

I just had my IUI on Thursday (DH's B-Day). I heard on another board that drinking red bull 30 minutes before a sample will give your DH's sperm a boost. Well DH did just that and his motility increased 36%... Yes, 36% I got to see his count on the microscope and they were bouncing all over the place. DH and I decided to have him drink red bull 30 minutes before we BD every time.

Other then that - I will post more later...

Shay

Shay and Candy,

I am very sorry for late response. Lot of things going on in my life, my parents left yday after their 6 months trip. It is so depressing, with all the emotional stuff.

Yday my husband had good time (ofcourse bad time for me) in blaming me for every thing in front of his friends, I was 214 lb when I checked on Saturday, this morning when I checked I am 216.

I am feeling so nervous. Dissappointed, Frustated.

Sri

Sri - Don't be upset and don't let your DH bring you down....

Everyone else... I am on my way to get on a scale. Sorry for the late reply.

Shay

Well my weight put a damper on my 4th of July. I knew I probably gained because of the IUI water gain and me eating a lot lately but I never would have thought I would gain 8 lbs. Yup, 8 lbs. I am back up to 225 lb at @ 5'9. To make matters worse.... DH went and bought matching plaid shorts both in a size 36 waist. Well his were hanging off of him while mine I could barely get in.

I am going to walk my butt of these next few week.

Shay

I see that everyone dropped off the board. Well sorry for the late update. I know we are supposed to update every Monday but I couldn't get on a scale. My update is 224 lbs at 5'9 so I lost 1 lb.

Shay

Way to go Shay! I haven't been able to weigh yet this week either, I don't have a scale and have to go to my mothers to weigh and this week we had some family drama which prevented my parents to be home and me from going to weigh. I will know more tomorrow!

Hopefully last nights cake sharing with DH didn't ruin my loss numbers for this week. I haven't really been as active as I should, I have been suffering some depression I think, my AF was a whole week late and my POAS was a BFN, now its trying to start properly I think, anyway its been a hard week for me and I haven't done my walking or weights.

Also, I was supposed to go for my LAP this month and now my OBGYN has gone and opened his own practice and I have had some trouble getting all my medical records moved to his office. I have learned however that the Practice not the Dr and Not YOU own your medical records. And they can charge you to forward them even if you sign a release. I don't think thats what the public meant when they passed the new privacy laws, I think thats something the DR's snuck in there to make some extra money.

I will weigh in tomorrow!
-Candy

Sri:

Don't be so hard on yourself, we all have these weeks. Especially all of us on these forums. Shame on your DH? Does he do this often? I told my DH in the beginning about 5 yrs ago, when it comes to IF its like our sex life and shouldn't be shared at work or with Friends not sharing our situation. They never understand that we are emotional creatures. Why did he think it was ok to blame you for it anyway, getting PG takes two people, has he done his part in all this, everytime.

Any particular reason for the disappointment?

Frusteration and now I am finding depression are not abnormal when it comes to IF.

Has anyone heard from Patty? How she is doing with her PG?

-Candy

Candy,

I am actually 2dpiui and I POAS also. I got a BFN also. Not too devastated since I knew the odds were against me this month. Hope everything is good with everyone else.

As far as the walking and exercising goes, I haven't done much. I am working 40 hours at one job and 25-30 hours at the next so I am pretty tired after work.

Shay

Hi guys, sorry I did not write on Monday - I took a long weekend to go to Savannah, GA. I really needed to get away from it all. We did a lot of walking there, but also a lot of eating - great restaurants there.

weighed in today, 171; this is one lb up from last week. Also, I am taking it easy after my IUI on the workout, I am 6dpiui, which is about when implantation should take place. Which means I will probably gain some. It it works it will be all worth it, if it doesn't I will be taking the next month off and will seriously get down on working out and cutting down calories without being afraid to harm anything.

Hi Ladies,

I am very sorry for late update, yday I weighed I am 213 I am 5'3", last week I was 216 so I reduced 3 lb.

Candy, Thanks for your supporting words, my husband was not like that before he was very supporting, but when my parents were here for 6 months, he experienced lot of gap between us, which he couldn't cope up with I guess.

I had a nice conversation with my husband, he felt sorry for what ever he has done, and promissed me he will not repeat that again, we had real nice time this weekend. That might be an additional reason for loosing 3 lb :).

On the other hand from yday I started Provera to start my period, so this week result I am not sure, usually on Provera I gain weight.

If I am happy I loose weight so I am trying to be happy, but it is becoming real difficult, I am not having proper sleep from couple of days, always I get a feeling when I touch my tummy, "Will I be able to carry my baby here in my life time.." that feeling I can not express in words it will dwell my heart and I am not able to come out of that.

Sri

Aster333,

I am glad I’m not the only one who works out about half the month. I am also afraid to workout or even lift anything to heavy after an IUI or IVF. So I completely stop working out except for the constant walking at work. I always tell myself that after a failed cycle, I am going to workout real good but always end up in another cycle so I am just gaining or maintaining my weight.

Wan2Bmom,

I am glad to hear that you and DH are working it out. Men don’t understand that the work Infertility is a BIG word and it carries a lot of stress and disappointment. Glad to hear you are moving forward.

As for me I tested --- last night at 12dpiui and am not going to test anymore. I am just going to wait for AF and move forward with a double IUI in July.

Shay

Shay:

Do you have to work so much? My DR told me to act as if I already had a baby, meaning working only normal 40 and finding rest, relaxation and excercise, eat properly all the food groups in a day and 1800 calories a day. Stress can keep you from getting pregnant and screw with your hormones.

Aster:

Wow, sounds great, welcome back!
-Candy

Hanna-Candy,

I actually went from working 40 hours a week at FedEx which was the easiest job in the world. I sat on my but and told my employees what to do. I even would go to my car and sleep 4 hours out of that day or even be on the message board all day. After I maxed out their IUI and IVF coverage, I needed to find another job that would cover IVF.

So I moved onto a store manager position with Starbucks only to find out that they dropped their Infertility coverage effective the 2006 calendar year. So I then had to make another move. I took a payroll position with ADP with a $3 increase in pay more then I ever made. The down side in that is, that FedEx covered 3 IVF’s @ 100% but ADP covers IF coverage at $5000 max per year. That’s 1 IVF.

So I am working both jobs 40 hours at 1 and 25 hours at the next so I can save $1000 a month. I want to be able to have $10,000 by the end of the year so I can quick the second job. Just incase I max out the IVF coverage, I will have the cash money to pay for another 2 IVF cycles.

Sorry for the long reply

Shay

I just started a new job that is so much better relaxed then my last one. I was Asst. Director at a DayCare....Wow.... I worked basically 18 hours a day because I was always do something for the center, or covering someones shift, or watching someones child until they could get them.

After treatments I would have to return straight to work, and I even had to make a "DAY 3" appt. on CD4 because I couldn't leave the center.

So I hope that just being relaxed works!!!! :)

My heart totally goes out to you! It just isn't fair at all.

Oh I didn't even introduce myself...how rude!!!! I will post a newbie thread too!!

Tracy
4 Failed IUI's 2005-2006
Ready to try again with IVF!!

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Sri:

Glad to hear it, I understand the DH, thats why biblically we leave our mother and father and cleve to our DH. In-laws can make marriage and concieving difficult. Wow 3 lbs, How lucky, I hope I have the same luck, missed the scale again yesterday but have been depressed due to my spotting when I should have AF and then POAS was BFN. Plus, I am having trouble with Envy where my sister is involved, she has two kids both announced during my IF treatment BFN cycles and now she gets to stay home and I am still working 40 hours a wk without a baby. Oh well sorry pitty party for myself, I will get over it I always do.
-Candy

Welcome to the board Tracy, we are endeavoring on a weightloss support to get PG campaign.

-Candy

Shay:

Oh, good planning, that sucks that you have to work two jobs for IF coverage, I understand though, I might have to quit my ok job take another one so I can get IF coverage at all, $5000 wow is that with meds? My job of 5+ years has great insurance but not for IF because the other union members arent' willing to pay for the group IF rider. DH ins sucks all the way around.

Some things in life are so unfair, like how good people like us have to give up our entire life as we know it to have a baby and 60 teenage girls just last year in my school district jumped in the back seat with a six pack of illegal beer and end up PG. URGGGHHH!!! By the way DH and I tried the beer and the back seat it doesn't work. LOL It must be the age then.
-Candy

Patty:

How are you doing? What did your Dr. say? Morning sickness?

-Candy

Hannah-Candy,

I have to start off by saying I’m LMAO. I thought I was the only crazy one to try to do it like teenagers. DH and I tried humping in the back seat of the car, in the movie theater and even the park. I still got BFN results. I guess it really is the age thing. Unless it’s something in the cafeteria food!!! :) :) :)

Tracy,

Glad to have you aboard. I am like you; I have to work many hours just to get what I want in the end. I have 4 failed IUI’s and 3 failed IVF’s under my belt. Just wanted to ask… What’s your weight status? Any weight issues lingering you way???

As far as ADP insurance goes – They cover $5000 plus meds. Meds are not included in the 5K. But that’s a big drop from having 3 IVF’s covered at 100%. My bills were like 60K with IVF. AH, ICSI, u/s, b/w, etc etc.

As for me… AF showed her face this morning and I have had World War III ever since. I hate Kaiser Insurance and can’t wait until next month when I use ADP insurance. Kaiser never is upfront with you and they give you mixed answers. They tell you to OPK and when you turn +++ to call for insemination the next day. Well – It turned +++ and I didn’t even get to do IUI until the day after so it was WAY TOO LATE. Then they tell you to call in on CD1 and get your prescription for Injectables or Clomid and I called them on Monday to tell them I was gonna start AF on Thursday like clock work. Well – Now no one is there to take my call and then the lady says that I need to get an u/s before they can prescribe me Clomid. I told her I just had an u/s and she said that I need and u/s EVERY SINGLE MONTH to re-prescribe Clomid for that month.

WHAT THE F*CK????

Not only do they NOT give you an u/s to check your follicles, they make you use the OPK monitor but they want to give you an u/s just to prescribe you Clomid. My first OBGYN never did that. He even checked your follicles every other day after CD10 then gave you the HCG trigger.

Sorry for the vent –
Shay

Hi Ladies,

I am working the usual 40 hrs, I am a contractor, I can take day offs even continuosly for 2 months I will be in project but there is only small problem I will not get paid :D

My insurance $5000 lifetime for infertility, which was over in our first IVF attempt. 1st IVF itself we paid almost $4000 from our pocket plus medicines.

Second one we paid $10,500 + medicines approximately $3000.

Luckily my ectopic surgery was 100% covered by insurance.

Cancelled FET and Failed FET we paid, I mean obviously if insurance doesn't cover we have to pay, thats what we are doing.

So to go to next treatment not only loosing weight I have to save some thing.

Why is it this much difficult to have a baby, when most of the ladies are becoming pregnant just like that?

Sri

weigh it day!

I have good news: 168 - lost 3 lbs since last week without even exercising. I wonder if the medications I was taking for IUI made me retain water last week.

How is everyone else doing?

I told her I just had an u/s and she said that I need and u/s EVERY SINGLE MONTH to re-prescribe Clomid for that month.

WHAT THE F*CK????

My RE did this as well and among people I know who have had infertility treatment, this "baseline ultrasound" is pretty typical. The reason they do this is that sometimes Clomid causes cysts, and it is not recommended to keep taking it if you have cysts. I had to sit out a cycle once because of a large cyst caused by Clomid. The cyst may keep you from ovulating normally, so it's really wise to make sure everything is ready to go first, especially if you're spending a lot of money on treatment. Clomid alone isn't expensive but when I was spending $1000+ per cycle on other things, it was nice to have that peace of mind.

I told her I just had an u/s and she said that I need and u/s EVERY SINGLE MONTH to re-prescribe Clomid for that month.



Shay:

My RE said that they do that to ensure that the Clomid is not causing Hyper OVulation Syndrome. The baseline u/s allows them to know if they need to lower your clomid dose or up it or not give it to you at all in order to prevent this very painful and awful syndrome. Some women have just started pouring out their eggs and we are born with as many eggs as we will ever have, so when they pour out and are wasted or useless, causing pain or bleeding they can make your IF even worse or permanent. One of the reasons I went to the RE was because my OBGYN didn't test prior to giving me Clomid and I had already read about this disorder. Also the packet that came with the Clomid in the package was very information for me.

OBGYN's and Reproductive Endocrinologists are so different. OBGYN's shouldn't be practicing with IF, its very serious and the side affects can be fatal to your Fertility options.

Venting is what this board is for. Oh yah and the Cafeteria food isn't it because I work at the high school and eat that food also, didn't work!
My DH has capped our IF budget at 20,000 (Three IVF attempts for us) After that he has agreed to pursue adoption. The Adoption attourney said it would cost 17,000. for the adoption but that the federal insurance gives us 10,000 dollars back for adopting a child in the US. So I figure either way I should have the family I want. Mostly, I am trusting in God to allow the IVF to take.

My RE said if I lost 15-25 pounds I have about a 50% chance of the IVF being BFP. So far those odds sound reasonable. Have you heard of a program called Shared Risk Program?

-Candy

Hi Ladies,

Why is it this much difficult to have a baby, when most of the ladies are becoming pregnant just like that?

Sri


SRI:

I know. I look at it like a disease, Not fair and but I am willing to try anything they think will cure it. Sometimes it feels like the disease is winning and killing me, other times I have hope about remission. I will tell you I have grieved just like a cancer patient, the loss of my baby in 2004. Working in a highschool for at risk students and the Minor Parent Program, 60 girls 14-17 with babies is hard for me, each time I see one of those teenage girls neglecting their babies for a beer, a party or to feel loved, First I want to cry then I want to bend them over my knee and spank their a@@.

You will be a great Mom someday! Eat healthy, excercise and take your meds like the good Dr ordered and I will pray for you that you get the baby you always dreamed of.
-Candy

Candy,

Thank you so much for adding me in your prayers. It is same with me too, my friend who is now 35 weeks pregnant ( we both came to know that we were pregnant same day, but mine was ectopic) will not take proper care of herself.. I feel when people like me are struggling to have a baby, when you are gifted with one, why don't you take care of yourself and your baby?

I don't know, some times I feel, what ever this delay for us to have a baby, that is also good, now we know the value of being mother, and we will defenetly take proper care of our babies.

On the scale today I am 211 lb, I lost only 2 lb. I did excercise only 2 days in last week due to work pressure.

SRI

Sri:

Congratualations on the weight loss. Anytime we don't gain is a good week.
Your right we will be great moms!
-Candy

Checking in! I only lost 1 pound this week, but I did do some traveling with my DH so I will consider it a blessing anyway. We are traveling again this weekend on business.

That puts me at exactly 239. Heres to 25 more pounds at least. My LAP has been postponed I think to August.

-Candy

I want to start off by saying congratulations to those who have lost weight this week and to those who haven't, there are many weeks to come. Sorry about the late reply but I am moving so my internet is no longer on. Plus, I have been working MANY hours.

Sri - I see you have paid a lot in this IF struggle. I am so scared that I am heading the same way. I have already dished out 10K and the IVF's were covered at 100%.

aster333 - Taking meds does make you retain and gain weight. I gained 15-20 lbs with EACH IVF cycle I did. I started this IF struggle at 180 and I am now tipping the scales at over 200 lbs.

txblue and Hannah-Candy - Thanks for looking out for me about the u/s and Clomid thing. I understood that they check you to make sure you don't have any cysts but I feel like if they can check me for cysts, why can't they check me instead of making me use the OPK thing.

Other then that. I am sorry I post late. I am so confused right now. I don't know if it's my aunts scale or the scale at Target. I think this is why I need to use the same scale EVERY TIME I weigh myself. Remember how I told you I started out at 230, then dropped to 225, then was at 217 at my last doctors appointment. Then I weighed myself last week and it said I was 225 again. Well, I weighed myself again today and it said I was 216. So I am going to stick with 216 and weigh myself again tomorrow morning and let everyone know.

This is to all those in the IF struggle and feel weight is part of the problem!!!

Shay

Shay:

I had to not purchase a scale on purpose because the depression gets so bad for me sometimes. I am trying to ultimately judge by my jeans. Anyway, my moms is on the way home from work so I try to stop there one day a week, Monday and weigh. They have a new one out now I almost bought at Walmart though the other night, that remembers your weight and the date so you can scan through it in the end. This might help me know when its meds and when its elbowitis. 216 is fair and it might be the drugs anyway playing with your 5 pounds of waterweight? (maybe)
The OPK just helps them know what your cycle looks like hormonally as well as mucous, bleeding if you become pregnant, etc.
-Candy

Good afternoon Ladies...

It weigh in time and I have to tell you I am not doing good or bad. I weighed myself again at the doctors office and it said 216 again. So I didn't lose nor did I gain, which is a good thing.

I started my new ADP job today and so far I love it. We have A FREE, yes FREE on site Medical Center. They do everything form regular doctors visits to prenatal visits. And check this: If you see the on site Medical Office, you visits are FREE, Paid by the company, and you don't miss time worked. As long as you see the on site Medical Office, even if your down there for 2 hours, you still get paid since you on Company Grounds. Gotta love that.

Other then that: I haven't did much working out expect for moving boxes if that counts. I haven't eaten much junk food so I think that counts for some of the reason I haven't gained weight.

Where is everyone???? I miss you guys... What's you updates???
Shay

Hi,
I was wondering if I could join? I have been tring to lose weight for a little over a yr. I started out at 208 May 05 and I'm 5'5. Right now I'm 189 and I joined weigh watchers earlier this month. I lost 3 pound the first week and I was sooo excited. Then I went on vaca and gained it back. Last week I lost 2 pounds. I made myself got to the gym today.
We have been ttc #1 since 03. The first yr I didn't really obsess about it. We went to RE about 2 yrs ago. He says I have P.C.O.S. adn dh has low motility. O.k. so we did three round of Clomid. Two that we did with IUI. Also want to note that Clomid makes me totally insane and I hate taking it. Then dhs ins doesn't cover any IF so....as of March of this yr I decided to go to a acupuncturist/natutalpathic Dr. I have been taking herbs and trying to regulate my cycle. The last three months my cycles have been 38 days long. Today I'm on cd25 and I'm starting to spot. AF never comes this early. So I think one of the herbs called pregnancy prep is helping.
And some good news is that I'm getting ins through my employer. It should cover IUI and meds. No IVF coverage though. I don't think we will ever be able to afford that. Anyway I work part time as a dental receptionist. I work 3 to 3.5 days a week at the most 30 hours. I'm very lucky. It will work out good for me if I ever get pg. So I'm hoping next month to do IUI. I really struggle with my weight and ttc. Hoping to find others for support.

Did Anyone watch Oprah yesterday?

Weighing in, up .3 pounds this week. However, I am finally after 3 weeks late just finishing with AF and having my first spot free day in 30 days. So it might be that.

239.8 weighing in. Got new treadmill, next week will be better!

Shay:

Congratulations on your new job, wow, what is ADP? Can I get employeed there? Sounds great. Picking up boxes counts for excercise if you do it for more than 15 minutes straight.

Jen:

Welcome aboard! Weigh in is Monday! No brow beating, I have PCOS as do a few of the others in our program so youll fit in just great. If you loose in a week we like to know what you did to get there so we can too. So far for me cutting out the sugar and white stuff is the best. TTC is hard, I have been at it 8 yrs now with 4 IUI, one clomid assisted and 3 w/o, having LAP in a couple weeks then on to IVF. Year 5 was a miscarriage for us, so we are trying to avoid another one before we get pregnant again and start IVF. Glucophage worked to regulate my periods and my Insurance covered it because its normally provided for type 2 diabetes so they don't consider metformin or glucophage fertility related.
What kind of work do you do?

Well guys its back to work for me starting Thursday I think. Next vacation in September Labor Day, can't wait already.
-Candy

Just wanted to drop in and let everyone know that ADP is a great company. You don't necessarily have to work in the payroll department. They are hiring for Customer Client Reps with no payroll experience but you have to have computer experience and Call Center experience is a plus but not necessarily needed. The pay is great. I don't know what the pay is in other states but the start off with no experience in California is $17.50 plus you get a raise 6 months later then another raise at your 1 year anniversary. You can get between 10-17% increase in pay.

ADP is a payroll company but has ALOT of positions within the company.

Their medical insurance starts on day 1 of hire and you have to enroll within 15 days of hire date or you will be automatically enrolled in coverage of their choice. They do cover IUI, IVF, ICSI and much more but at a $5000 annual maximum.

Their insurance has a $300 deductible and 90% coinsurance with a maximum out-of-pocket expense of $1,750 (includes deductible).

Jen - Nice to have you on board. Like Hannah-Candy said. We chime in on Monday's with our weight update. And like Hannah said also, if you lose weight we like to know what your tricks of the trade are.

Shay

Hannah-candy,
Hi I work at a Dentist office and do all the office work. Billing answering phones etc. It's a good job that I like a lot.
I havent used metformin yet. I'm going to go back to RE next month and hope to try it. I have been going to accupuncurist and she has given me a herb called pregnancy prep to help regulate my cycle. Well I got AF today and my cycle was only 26 days. It has been 38 days the last 3-4 months. I'm hoping this will help me out.
thanks for the welcome girls.

Hi Ladies,

Sorry for the late update, Monday the 24th I weighed and I lost only 1 lb, now I am 210 lb. I got my period on 21st after taking Provera, and just today I had hysteroscopy done. Good news is there is no problem found in Hysteroscopy, and one more good news is my chromosomal test results are back, and both myself and my husband are normal. Whew!!

If I just loose weight we can goahead with another treatment. I want to loose this 10 lb, before going to treatment.

I am having rough time at work, more work more politics, it is like every day I am going to war. Managing at home, work and going to Gym is really becoming difficult. I pray God to give me the energy to do all these.

Good Luck to all...
Sri

Sri:

I will pray for you that you have energy abundant and that the pounds just fall off so you are ready to start your next treatment. I am thinking I might need to see a doctor regarding depression maybe some pills to help out. Since my MC in 2004 I have really gone down hill, then in 2005 I had second degree burns from a cup of tea at Starbucks, then in Feb 2006 while hiking I took a 2 by 4 inch rock in under my knee and had to hike back 30 minutes to the car and then 25 more to the nearest hospital. Anyway, I spent two months following having my tissue rebuilt under my knee. I think its making weight loss a little difficult for me between all of that and reaching 33 (8yrs TTC w/out a baby.)

Just refuse to participate in the politics, 8 hour day for 8 hour pay. I understand I work in a war zone too. I am thinking of finding another job so that I can avoid the upcoming chaos we call normal in my job. What do you do?

Jen:

Wow, maybe I should find an accupuncurist too, but will they treat me since I have had a MC? What kind of herbs are they? My RE told me to stop taking the prenatals and start taking 800 mg's of folic acid instead. I will start that after my LAP.

Shay:

That sounds great ADP, I looked it up but they are all so far from my house. I wish they had some openings from home. I used to do bookkeeping and work in a strockbrokerage so some of the openings in Santa Clara were right up my alley, but leaving my home on the central coast is really hard for me, family and friends here are so close and we have barely lived in our new house for 1 year. I just got a notice yesterday that the quote they gave our union for Insurance was a 42.7% increase this year, talk about last minute we renew in September, not much time to find a new carrier for 500+ people. Our Ins didn't cover IF but we only had a $100 dollar deductible per member and they covered all DR visits at least 90%. Glucophage has been covered and Clomid was discounted but we are up for IVF next I am pretty sure and it will not even cover my Thrombofilia panel which is $600.00 because my RE has to have it go to a special Fertility related lab all the way across country to get the test he is looking for. Oh well, I guess if it ensures no more MC's its worth it, I am not sure DH and I can handle another one of those after 8yrs of TTC.

-Candy

Candy,

Sorry to hear about your knee. I know it will be difficult to excercise. I don't know about your diet, but this is what I usually do if I am not able to go to Gym for more than 2 days. I will have my dinner too early that means before 7 PM, and in my diet I will cut 70% carbs. That means, in my usual dinner I will have 50 grams carbs (I know it is too much, but being an Indian I can not cut on rice), if I am not going to Gym, I will cut rice, and have 2 slices of wheat bread or some thing equalent, by doing this I still can reduce weight, may be not 3 lb per week, atleast 1-2 lb I will be reducing. I know your diet style will be different, but you can try this modifying accordingly.

I am a contractor working for a Financial company as a software developer. 8 hours I will be sitting, being contractor, I have to always proove my self, plus some male ego in the team. In the past 1 year I thought of changing job many times, but the only reason I am working here is, I have flexible hours, I can work from home when I ever I want (trust me that is not real comfort, now it is almost 1 am, I am still working on some production issue.. my husband is just waiting for me in the bed room).. So in every thing there will be pros and cons..

Let us hope for the best...

Sri

Hannah-Candy,
I don't see why an acupuncturist wouldn't see you. When I called mine she told me everything she would want to do adn answered questions for me. You can even set up just a consult appt. to meet with them. At least mine did. The herb that regulated my cycle is called pregnancy prep. I will list some of the herbs in it.
Tribulus terrestis extract
Rhodiola rosea root extract
Chaste tree berry
Rasberry leaf
Afalfa leaf
Dong qui
Motherwort leaf
Unicorn root
The prenatals I'm taking have Alfalfa and red rasberry in it. I take six of the prenatals a day adn also fish oil tablests twice a day. She told me if I go back to RE they will have me stop taking the hebs if I'm going to go on if meds.

Sri:

That sounds good to me, I have a 30 minute commute to work each way, then quite often I work 10 hrs a day. I teach one day a week, do accounting and computer data analysis the other 4 days, take ID pictures and plan fundraising, amongst my other duties and voluteer stuff at the school where I work. I love the teens though, so I am finding it hard to switch to a higher paying full time office job.

Since my IF DX this year I am trying to stick to 8 to 8.5 hours though. To take some time for me. I will try the carb thing. My dietician told me to try for 90 grams of whole grain carbs a day only!. That means everytime I eat candy or something I have to walk an extra 10 minutes. I am walking again perfectly, but sometimes with the summer heat my ankle swells up a little. I think my blood vessels are still working on themselves. I don't know what the cost of living is like in PR but its astronomical here and the gas prices alone are usuall $3.50 per gallon so that rules out money for the Gym right now, maybe later. (Or maybe when they build our new school it will have one I can use.)

Good luck I hope this cycle turns out to be a great big BFP, would you and DH be happy or want twins?

-Candy

Hey Ladies,

Just wanted to drop in a say a little bit. I am in a hurry so i will speak to all at once. Sorry for the me post also. To those who are struggling with the weight loss, I am in the same boat. It's hard to find time in the day to REALLY work out.

As for me - DH upped and moved to NC. Yup, North Carolina. I live in Cali so that's 2400 miles and WAY across the United States. He wasn't even going to tell me but I found out. He was just going to move there and then when he got there he was going to tell me he moved. MY HUSBAND, not my boyfriend but my HUSBAND. So I let him go and I am moving on.

Other then that, I am fine. Doing good at work. And for those who are having a hard time at work... I pray for you. I know that stress at work means drama. It also puts strain on the weight loss plan. So good luck with that.

Shay

Shay:

Girlfriend, I am so sorry! What happened, is this IF related? I can't believe he was going to just up and go without even telling you? Why NC? To hell with stress and work girl you have it way worse. How long have you been together? Are you still going to proceed with the treatments, Donor sperm or something?

Admittedly, I am in awe, I had no idea that you guys were even having problems. Is this something you guys could work out? Sorry to be so blunt but he sounds like a bit of a coward, to just plan to up and leave and not even say anything. What prompts someone to do that?

Again, I am so sorry for your situation. What part of California do you live in? I am up near the Pismo Beach area if you are anywhere close maybe we could meet for lunch sometime. We can swap info if you want to PM me.

-Candy

Hannah-Candy,

Thanks for the kind words. I live in Long Beach, CA. Near Los Angeles, CA I am always up for a drive if you live up North.

As far as the DH thing. We actually didn't have much of a problem before he upped and left. I think he was upset with the fact that I was offered a job with ADP making $19.50. That was a big increase from $16.60 and he only makes $14.00 So when things go down, I am the financial person to take care of it. Other then that, there was the IF issue and how he couldn't get me pregnant. I think that has to hurt him a lot since every time we argue about the IF thing, he always tells me to find a person who can give me a child.

After talking to him all weekend... DH came to the fact that he didn't tell me about NC in fear that I would not let him go. His whole idea was that he was going to tell me AFTER he got there. Problem was, he never got out of the state before I found out. He has apologized for the whole thing.

He still is going to do the NC thing but I am going to be here doing the Donor Sperm thing. If in a 2-3 months, I can get a transfer, I will move out there to be with him. If I don't get a transfer then I will have to think about if losing $10 in pay is worth it since the average pay out there is $6-9.

DH and I have talked about going the FET route or just doing DS and DH and I decided that DS is the best think emotionally and financially. So I am scheduled for a DIUI in September. He and I decided that if separation is the thing, then he would still legally adopt my Donor conceived child(ren). That's a good thing to know.

Other then that, it's Monday and I have lose another 2 lbs. I think it's a good thing since I have eaten junk food this whole week.

Shay

WOW!!! Hello Ladies! I have just finished reading the 61 posts and have gone on an emotional rollercoaster with you ladies in my reading.
I would love to join your group. I'm probably the heaviest at 5'4 and 260.

My story is- DH and I have been ttc for 6 yrs now. Sadly, my DH has azoospermia (zero sperm count), and I have one blocked tube. So when we went to our RE he first sent us to a Urology specialist who basically told us "no worries" Since DH's azoospermia was not harmone related and all tests showed he was producing the little guys, there was just something backed up that doing the biopsy and IVF w/ICSI would be the easiest and cheaper route than trying to find where the block was to "unblock". SO now its just a thing of funding. ANd that is what the hold up is. My RE strongly feels that I have PCOS but I have not been tested yet, again, because we felt we shouldn't start part of it, and not be able to continue the whole thing. So I sit and wait and read this forum.
Shay - I have to say I first saw you when you and another had a thread going about Starbucks, and funny thing was I had just put in a application there, then like later that night or week, Cant remember you posted the details about it. You had us all waiting to find out what was going on. So girlfriend, I kindly never stepped foot back into starbucks looking for a job.
I'm in good ole VA which doesn't cover jack, but my sister state MD is a mandated state, so I have been looking at finding a job there and just doing the hour and a half commute depending on which part of maryland.
Also I wanted to say I am so sorry about your DH, did he have azoospermia also? WHen he told you to go find someone else to get you PG, I understand 100% how you felt, because mine said the same thing.
I tell you what, it is a lot of work and stress when the DH finds out he has a problem. I guess we all could fill the Atlantic with our tears from all this IF stress!

Anyway, I went rambling on and on. I hope I can start with you guys. I won't be a chattery next post I promise.
And just to clarify, do we do our "weigh in" on mondays?

ReeRee

ReeRee,

Welcome to the board. Our weigh In's are on Monday's though some of us can't get to the computer in time. A late post is still welcome.

Sorry.... I just drew a blank. I forgot what else I needed to say.
Well....... Welcome again. Once I catch my train of thought I will e-mail you back.

Shay

thanks so much Shay,
I am really looking forward to this. SOmething fun to look forward to. (I think) :-)

Hi Everyone:

Weigh in for me 238.5 down 1 pound from last week, losing slowly but surely. Did I tell you guys I got a treadmill? I haven't used it yet but plan to now that I am going back to work full time I will get home after dark. I work in public education so I have a summer break and winter break. That works out nicely.

Regarding DH's with IF problems. Men are major ego's and I know having a female factor DX that I have felt horrible about myself, incompitent, like a slut at times because there is a chance my college days sex life before marriage may have caused me to have an infection that caused the whole and blockage in my left fallopian tube which now has to be removed and may have caused my Miscarriage in 2004. Or it might have been a mild case of appendicitis, RE isn't sure. Anyway, my point is we need to be aware that although men don't always seem like they have emotions, when it comes to their ego, pride and place in the marriage (leader, protector and provider) they can get rather tempermental. Originally our DX was PCOS, Left Hydrosalpinx and low Motility. Now with Coffee, V8 and Slim Fast DH has been able to change his DX. Me, still awaiting date for LAP and taking the glucophage.

Anyway, in my opinion, no child is worth my marriage, but my DH loves me so much which it sounds like yours do too, that he wants me to be happy and a fullfilled life so he is doing his best to give me a baby no matter what it takes, he would prefer to exhaust all other options before going for adoption though. We took the classes to get licensed but he decided that was to much up and down and drama at least at the county level for now.

Babies affect marriages in negative ways if you are already having some probs with it.

Shay:

Congratulations on your new job and weight loss. I was just down in Long Beach a little over a week ago for a trade show with my DH. Boy was it hot there. Also, I have family who lives in Costa Mesa so maybe sometime when we head down that way again we could meet up. The 405 is a large deterant for me though and sometimes the 101 can be a real B!**$ too. Right now I am about to go for surgery and then the busy time of the year for me so it will be after September before I can plan to much, but it would be fun to have a Coastal IF get away with a bunch of us women, Maybe the spa in Ojai or something.

Have you and your DH considered IF counseling, or marriage counseling in general? It was suggested to us last week since we have undergone the MC and 8 yrs TTC w/out a baby, but 2 years ago we went through marriage counseling and feel we have really learned to support each other and communicate better when it comes to this IF stuff and marriage in general. It helped believe it or not the first time, just a thought.

SRI?

Are you still here? Good news on the weightloss front?

Jen:
What did the acupunturist say she could do for you now that your Cycle is normalizing?

Patti:
Any new news? Did you have the beta and U/S yet?

ReyRey:

Welcome, PCOS has other effects other than IF, and usually your regular medical insurance will pay for that even without IF coverage, it can lead to borderline diabetes and other uncomfortable symptoms depending on how bad your PCOS is. However, my dietician told me that proper diet can really help with the PCOS as well, and my new RE says I am just borderline PCOS, I have the cysts (small and only a few) on my ovaries, my FSH is only 4-8 on ovulation CD's when it should be 10-12 but otherwise, it just makes me a little hormonal and chubby. The glucophage they gave me for the PCOS has really helped regulate my cycles and I think along with cutting down on the sugar and bad carbs has helped me lose some weight.

I hope I didn't leave anyone out! sorry for the length, we are getting to be a larger family on this thread than before, The more the merrier.

-Candy

Hi everyone,
Sorry I'm late.I'm at 187.5 this week. I lost 1.5 not as much as I would like but I had af last week and was bloated when I weighed in at ww. I'm off to the gym today.
Candy,
I only talked to my acupuncturist real quick. She is sending me more of the pregnancy prep since it worked. She said something about mabye trying Vitex in the future. I have a appt next Thur. so we'll see. I'm just so excited that my cycle is normal...mabye I will get pg??? You never know.

Jen:

1.5 is .5 more than me this week, but as I always say any week I don't gain is a good week for me.

Good luck with your appointment next week.
-Candy

Hi Ladies,

This week no progress... I didn't loose any weight I am still 210 lb. This could be bcoz of last week's AF followed by Hysteroscopy, with no excercise and lot of resting.

I had cramps after Hysteroscopy, so I don't want to take any risk.

Temperatures are very high, and I am not at all able to bare the heat. I am feeling very tired and lazy. I should defenetly go to Gym from tomorrow onwards.

ReeRee:

Welcome to the board. I guess for all of us who are obese has PCOS. I too have PCOS. So did your RE talk about weight? Did he suggested any thing about diet and excercise?

Shay/Candy:

I am not sure about DHs ego part, but when the spouse feels he/she is responsible for not having baby, then the frustation can be shown out in any way. Bcoz, often I ask my husband to go and marry a slim girl and have kids, just leave me alone. I know neither he likes nor do I, but the frustation makes you to talk like that.

Even this time also I told him, we will try 2 fresh cycles, if it doesn't work, you have to give me divorce and marry. He smiles, and tells "You are a fool.. don't think too much." May be I am a fool.. let us wait and see what this fool can achieve :D

SRI

Hannah-Candy,

Thanks again for all the find words. When it comes to DH and I going to counseling or even Church.. DH is against it. He feels like he is a step better then that. I have asked him many times to go with me to counseling but he refuses. So with that in mind, I just leave it alone. It's better to leave it alone until he is ready then to drag him to counseling and he just sits there without even talking.

To those who have lost weight and to those who have stayed at a constant weight... Congratulations... And just like someone said... Even if I stayed at a constant weight, that's good enough for me.

To all others I will post more personals later....

Shay

May be I am a fool.. let us wait and see what this fool can achieve :D

SRI

SRI:

You'll show him I know you will! Glad to hear that you are feeling better from your Hysteoscopy? Did they find anything? Are you going to start IVF then? My LAP is scheduled for Sept 7, so I think October or November we will be ready for IVF, but since I will only have one fallopian tube left after LAP, I am not sure if I will ovulate or not so they can get the eggs.

I think that if your married to man who makes you happy, brings out the best in you and is loving and supportive, then you can always adopt if you both feel its that important to have a child together. Its harder to find a good man twice! It was hard enough finding one good one in the pool! LOL.
Besides there is also DSperm and DEggs and Surrogates, and ICSI, GIFT, ZIFT and IVF, lots of ways to have a baby. Thank god for the medical world.

Good luck getting back to the Gym! I always join and then pay and never go. So I cancelled my membership and opted for a treadmill at home and walking on the dunes and the beach.

Talk to you next week.
-Candy

Candy,

Every thing is normal in Hysteroscopy. I didnt started going to Gym yet. I will go this weekend.

Adoption, I am not sure. I want my own child, I want to carry my child in my tummy, I want to feel my child in my stomach, feel its movements, see the scan and see my little ones there, go to Lamaze classes with my husband and then after completing full term, want to deliver a beutiful baby, I want to see my husband holding our child so preciously.. Oh.. that day I am feeling that day will defenetly be there in my life before I die...

But I am positive, optimistic.. I know we all can make it.

Sorry for being too emotional.

Have a nice weekend.

SRI

wan2bmom-
I know how you are feeling. That is like my fantasy now. We will all get there you are right :D

Hi everyone,

Can I join this? I definately need to loose weight and need support with it. I have PCOS. Did anyone lose weight when started taking Metformin? The RE told me I would and I didn't.

Thanks,

Terry Pell

SRI:

I understand, we want that too.

No such thing as too emotional on these forums, it comes with the IF!
I have been crying for now reason lately, none not a song, not TV, just feel like it and cry. WTF?

Anyway, all is good talk to you Monday at Weigh In.
-Candy

Hope everyones weekend went well. I had no changes this week weight wise. I guess that is good. :tongue:

Hey Ladies...

Just wanted to drop in and say that I have gained 2 lbs. I am back at 216 and need to really get this losing weight thing into effect. I am going to try and start losing weight the right way. I am stressing about the baby thing, DH thing, and many more.

As for me - DH and I have been talking. We all remember that DH upped and moved to NC right? Well, we have been talking and we are actually on goo terms which is a good thing.

Hope all is well with everyone else...

Shay

Terry:

I didn't lose weight when I started taking it but I did stop gaining as fast. They had me meet with a dietician when they diagnosed me and upped my Glucophage amounts from 750 to 1500 mg's and she told me to cut the carbs to 90g's a day and make sure they all came from whole grains. That made me lose weight really fast and easy even without the walking they told me to do. She told me for every piece of chocolate (See's Candy) I ate I had to walk an extra 10 mins. That extended my hour to an hour and half really quick during AF. Anyway, they explained to me that when you have PCOS, your body is insulin resistant, meaning instead of processing and aborbing the sugars and making insulin, my organ for doing that just sealed up and resisted the sugars making all that extra weight (fat my body was producing) exponential and go right to my belly and butt.

I will have to weigh in tomorrow, I baked all weekend for birthdays so I doubt I lost this week, but I will let you know.

Welcome!
-Candy

Has anyone heard how Pattys pregnancy is coming along? I am wondering if her weight caused any extra problems. She should be getting almost done with the morning sickness by now.

Ok I will try again later.

-Candy

I'm down 1.5 again. Down to 186 this week. I have a RE appt today. I'm going to ask about metformin and injectables. I want to do IUI again. Wish me luck.

Ladies,

With absolutely no excercise and plenty of rest, I just lost 1 lb. Now I am 209.

I am having a problem which is putting me away from excercise. I had Hysteroscopy on July 28th. As per the post procedural instructions, after 24 hours I can resume all activities including sex. We made love on Aug 4th which is almost a week after the procedure, since then I started slight bleeding and spotting which ended today. I called my docotors office, and still waiting for their response. Sorry for Too Much Info. But does any one had this sort or problem? Am I having any other problem in my body now?

Jen- Congratulations on loosing 1.5. Good Luck for your IUI. I pray for you.
Terry- I am also on 1500 mg of Metformin, based on my diet, I am not sure how far that is helping me. But I am just taking it.
Shay- Don't count this 2 lb gain. Stress and emotions are the main cause for weight gain in my experience, whether any one agrees or not. Just relax, you will be down 2 additional pounds once your mind is relaxed.
Candy-You didn't gain weight that is a big plus.

Let us hope for the best.

SRI

Wan2BMom,

As far as the Hysteroscopy goes... I had one done last year around this time and I had light bleeding for about 2 weeks later off and on. They said no sex for 24 hours but we didn't even BD until a week later also and I still had light bleeding. It could just mean that you are shedding sum of the dead lining the was scraped during the procedure. You should be okay. Did they give you an antibiotic like Doxycyline? They gave me that to be on the safe side that I didn't get an infection.

Other then that.... I am okay. I am going to do a DIUI this month. AF should start this Thursday and I will be put on Clomid. I am doing to do a back to back IUI to be on the safe side... Wish me luck!!!

Shay

Hi girls,
I know I already posted my weigh in but wanted to update you on my RE appt. He doesn't think I do have P.C.O.S. like my ob thought. So he didn't think I needed metformin. We are going to try one moe clomid cycle with IUI. Then after that we will try injectibles. I'm nervous about that. He said he wants me pg by x-mas. So we will see. He also said I can keep taking my herbs until I get pg.

Shay-

Lots n Lots of luck for your IUI.

Yes I have taken Doxycycline for 3 days. Yday nurse from doctor's office said not to worry about the spotting. Not to stop BD :D . As spotting stopped I am feeling better now.

I am very much waiting for my next period, so that I can start my fresh IVF cycle.

Good Luck.

SRI

Jen-

Thats good news. My suggestion to you while you are on Clomid, try to be as relaxed as possible. Don't think about falling pregnant while BD, just relax and enjoy.

I have been on clomid for 8 months, it was very difficult for me, every month I used to feel more stressed during the BD time.

If possible avoid telling the days to DH. Some guys will get mood off for setting day and time for BD.

So Good Luck and Have fun.

SRI

SRI,
I know what you mean about letting dh in on BMS time. My dh hates it to be planned. I'm going to try going to my acupuncturist more because that helps relax me too. I took clomid three times before and had a terrible time on it. It seemed I had all the side effects especially my mood. DH is not looking foward to it. LOL

Jen:

Good Luck! Baby dust, baby dust, Blessings and miracles!
All IF babies are miracles you know.

Congratulations on your weight loss,

No loss or gain for me, still the 238, but need to be 215 or less by October. Crossing fingers, hoping.... I started my College class so, I know added stress but I need to finish my degree hopefully before my prayers are filled and I actually deliver a healthy baby. I don't have that far to go.

Let us know about your IUI, how many will you do before you move onto IVF?

SRI:
Good Luck! Baby dust, baby dust, Blessings and miracles!
All IF babies are miracles you know. This goes for your IVF cycle too, BFP! BFP!

Shay:
No worries on the gain, you have had a lot on your plate lately! Give yourself a break, what about Yoga, Ti Chi or just walking along the beach a couple times a week to help with the stress. Haven't you seen the cortisol commercials regarding weight gain from stress! LOL

Everyone:
With regards to BMS, After 8 years of this routine, my DH told me that he needs to know when it is so that even if he doesn't feel like it or isn't in the mood he won't say no or brush it off for a better time for him. Trust me try new things in the bedroom, or not in the bedroom depending on your personal situation. Also, I found that every 4-6 months taking a month off is a good idea just to keep the marriage happy, and to keep both of you from feeling like the only reason your having sex at all is to make a baby.


-Candy

KuteyPie:

How are you doing?
-Candy

Terry:

How are you? Where have you been? Don't let the metformin get you down. It actually helped me to have a more reliably timed AF. A benefit for me because now I can plan vacations that don't include AF.
Any weigh in for you this week?
-Candy

Candy,
Good luck with your class. You have plenty of time to lose the weight by Oct. I just picked up my bridesmaid dress yesterday for my brothers wediing. It fits me and I was soooo happy. So if if I lose a pound a week up to the wedding I will be fine. I oredered a size 16 and the dress place wanted me to order a 18. I said no because I was going to be losing weight. Good thing because all the other girls ordered the size they said and now they have to get the dresses altered. Mine is a little snug but my mom and dh said that it looks good.
I'm not sure how many IUI we are going to do. I don't think we could ever afford IVF unless we took out a loan. So we are crossing our fingers that IUI will work.My re seems pretty confident that I will be pg by x-mas. That would be wonderful if it comes true. I'm going to be doing acupuncture every two weeks for the next couple cycles too. So now I just have to wait on af. I'm on cd 17 this month with no meds.
Thanks for your encouraging words.

Beaglenutty,

Glad to see that you are looking up on this whole IF thing. I see that you are on CD17 with no meds. That's great. Hope to hear BFP's from you in the weeks and months to come. I would love to see us all pregnant by X-mas.

Hannah-Candy,

How are you lady? Where are you in the IF chain. Are you going for IUI or IVF? I agree with taking a month or two off every few months. It was very stressful when DH and I went from 3 IUI's to 3 IVF's back to back. After a year of full force trying, we still fell short of a baby. DH started to hate the whole IF thing.

SRI,

How are you lady? Hope your doing well. I know how it is on Clomid. I remember how stressed I was when we were doing IUI. Hope everything goes as planned for you this month.

To all other I may have missed this time around, Sticky Baby Dust to you!!!

As for me. I had my u/s yesterday and I start 100mg of Clomid tonight for 5 nights. I am having a back to back DIUI. I have already picked out my DS and am looking forward to falling pregnant by my birthday August 28th. I will be 25 finally.

Well I have to go. Hope all is well with everyone else.
Shay

Shay:

I have a LAP surgery Sept 7, then we are proceeding to IVF. My RE thinks that we will be successful the first time out but he is cocky that way and I remain a wee bit skeptical, nothing has been that easy where the IF is concerned yet.

Does the Clomid have an affect on your mood? It didn't affect me at all, I was surprised. Oh yah, 25 Wow, Girl you are still way young in the IF mess. Sticky baby dust to you ! for sure. Any new news with the DH, still communicating? Does he have family there? Why did he choose the East coast?

Hope all is great and your feeling great, Relax and take it easy after your IUI for at least a day or so I would stay close to home maybe even on my back as much as possible with my feet up to give it the best chance of swimming with all the gravitational force I can add towards the egg.

-Candy

Jen:

Christmas would be great, I am hoping for October though, I MC right after Christmas in 2004 and had announced my PG to my family during the christmas preparation time. I would like to clear the first trimester by Christmas if possible. But for everyone else, BY CHRISTMAS!!!!

By the way we are having to use our Equity line I think to finance the IVF. I don't see any other way and after 8 years TTC he thinks that IVF is the only way for us. So I can't give up now! Thanks again,
Candy

-Candy

Hannah-Candy,

Glad to see that you are moving forward. IVF is a really big step. I turned to IVF and IUI at 23 years old. I have 4 IUI and 3 IVF under my belt. The RE felt like I had an egg issue but I think it had to do with DH and his sample.

Other then that... DH and I are not really on good terms. I think it's time to focus on me and only me. DH called me last night and wanted to have phone sex. I told him no and that if he would have never upped and left to NC we would have the real thing. Well, his reply to that was that he moved to the East Coast and that he picked NC because he wanted to get away from me. He even went as far as telling me that NC from CA wasn't far enough from me. That hurt. He hung up in my face then turned around and called me back to apologize. He went too far this time. I know that people say mean things when their upset but I feel he was just telling the truth when he was upset. So with that, I have moved on. I will never call him again. When I can get enough money to file for divorce, I will. Yes, 25 is still young. Young enough to move on. Bring life into the world. And maybe even find someone new. I am not for re-marrying if this is what men think marriage is but finding someone to share life with sounds nice.

Sorry to babble on about my drama.

Shay

Shay:

Got it! No worry about the drama, boy he sounds like a work of art. I would have just told the DH, if all you called for was phone sex maybe you meant to call 1-800-In Your Dreams. Anyway, thats sad that its that bad, is all this over IF and DS? You don't mind being a single mom? That sounds like hard work! Also, just for the record my DH says not to judge all men by him. There are others out there that aren't jerks.
Have you considered adoption? Also, aren't you worried being a single mother will make finding a suitable daddy material husband that much harder? If it is the sperm the new one you find might have good sperm anyway. Just a thought. I found my DH at church, and so far 13 years later I am still glad he is here.

Did they test your eggs? With that many IVF and IUI's under your belt at your age maybe it is still a factor to consider. Maybe once you find a new improved man, you could try donor eggs if it doesn't work. But finding the good ones take time. Men that is! LOL

-Candy

Candy,
I know I would want to tell all of my family right away. It's so hard to wait and not tell them. Especailly when they know all the things we are doing to get pg. I hope by x-mas too it would be nice. I had a m/c about ten yrs ago so I'm always nervous about that. I'm going to be taking clomid next cycle. I hate taking it. I'm so moody and dh dreads it when I take it. LOL the things we do to get pg.

Hi Ladies,

I just lost 1 lb, I am 208 today, don't know what is wrong, in 2004 with minimum change in diet and little bit excercise, I lost 15 lb in a month, now 4 lb in a month its driving me crazy.

I am little bit depressed today, if my ectopic pregnancy was not ectopic, by this time I might have been in the labor room. I cried a lot this weekend thinking about that, ofcourse I know no pointing in crying for but still it hurts.

I should Thank my DH for giving me good support this weekend.

Shay - I am glad that you are very strong. Think calm and take wise decision.

Candy - When are you going to start your IVF. My cycle starts from this months AF, which is due Aug 21st. If no AF by 21st I have to start Provera followed by AF followed by BC. In that way I might be having retrieval some time in the month of October.

I should be down by 190 lb by that time, but by the present progress, I think it is very difficult.

SRI

Jen:

Can they give you something herbal to help with the mood swings? Do you get them just for the 5 days you are taking the clomid or the entire month?

-Candy

Sri:

Depending on the finances and my ovulation cycle after my LAP September 7, maybe we will end up IVF cycle buddies in Oct. My AF is due about the 21st as well. I am finding as I get older I have to excercise a lot more. Maybe because when I was younger I spent 2-3 hours a day in the pool swimming timed laps and or in the weight room preparing for diving? Unless, I eat only vegetables and meat and excercise at least an hour a day, Nothing happens for me either. I think I gained this week, but I have been so busy I haven't been able to get on the scale.
Congrats on your loss, I will pray it increases.

-Candy

Candy,
Usually the mood changes are after a couple of days of the clomid. I'll have to ask about herbs to help.
I too am having a hard time losing. When I was younger it came off so much easier. I stayed the same this week. I ate so much over the weekend. I have been really stressed at work at thats when I eat. Mabye next week will be better. I'm going to try some yoga today to relax.

KuteyPie:

How are you doing?
-Candy

I'm doing okay, I was a bit bummed monday when I weighed myself. I gained like 3 pounds, I cant figure out why, however it is very very close for good ole AF so I hope that is it. But then again, I was lazy all week.
Thanks Candy for checking up on me. Now I am catching up on all the posts

Hello Ladies....

Sorry for the late reply but I did weigh myself on Monday though. I don't remember what I weighed last week but I weighed in at 214 lbs this week. I think that's a pound lost.

Other then that. DH and I are still going at it. I think it was Hannah-Candy that asked if it was a Male Factor issue??? Actually, it started out as a Male Factor then after 3 failed IVF, we came to find out it's an egg quality issue.

Besides the IF problems, I am battling early stages of uterine cancer. I would rather have my child now just in case I have to endure a full hysterectomy like my mom, aunt, and grandmother.

Other then that. I know what life is like as a single mom and I know it's going to be hard. I have family who is going to help me. And while I'm at work, my mom will be taking care of my child. I think that I am in a place financially at 25 where I can handle the financial part of bringing life into the world. I have been saving $1000 a month since DH and I started fighting. Just in case he decided to up and leave (which he did) I would be stable. I save good money and don't have many bills. Plus, DH still gives me money every month to increase my savings.

Other then that.... I'm cool.

Shay

Shay:

Wow! he is still sending you money! Thats interesting how did you score that?

I have to be honest I haven't weighed this week, I am losing my mind, I started my back to College to finish my last undergrad class so I can transfer in the spring to a Cal State University. Also, I am working 40+ a week at my job and ended up this month hosting Bunko and Pampered Chef Party. Honestly, I don't think I have stopped until today to breath.

SOOOOOOO SORRRRRY to hear about the cancer. I see the point now of enduring the single mother bit. You are lucky to have your mom to babysit because even though a close friend of mine runs a day care we were looking at over 400.00 a month in day care costs. Being able to save that kind of money is phenomenal! Wow you must be very disciplined in your spending habits.

I will pray for your cancer issue and of course continue to pray for your BFP, are you using DE and DS now?

-Candy

Jen:

How is your cycle going? Feeling better?

-Candy

SRI!

How are you! Out of all of us I think your the best at the weightloss, to bad I can't send you some kind of prize for the most pounds lost! Would you like me to contact the Dr. Phil show for you?LOL

I hope you are well and DH is being supportive,
-Candy

Hello Ladies... Sorry for all the late replies. My internet was down for a few weeks and it's nowt back up so I won't be posting late anymore.

As far as the weigh in.... I'm not really keeping track of my weight loss on a scale matter but when I checked this past Monday, it said 211 lbs. I mean, I started out at 233 about 2 months ago so I think I am doing good.

Other then that. I had my DIUI (Donor-IUI) done 8/23 and 8/24. Sorry for the TMI but here it goes.....

Well this one nurse who was doing the insemination was really rough with me. It took her 5+ minutes to even get the catheter in and it hurt like HELL She even made me bleed as heavy as AF. Then when I went in the next day for the 2nd DIUI, the lady was so sweet. It took 30 seconds and she was done. She was telling me that I should come back in 7 days for a progesterone test and then she was done. I didn't even know she started. She's just that good. She was even nice enough to put a stopper in my vagina to keep the sperm from dripping out.

Since I wasn't going to be able to go home and elevate my hips again. She put a sponge with a plastic wrapper on top of it right in my uterus so the sperm couldn't slip out and they would only go up.

Other then that... I am cool. I did use donor sperm for those who asked.

****Hannah-Candy**** I sent you an e-mail

Shay

Hey ladies
How are all of you doing?
I guess I cannot complain, the last time I had checked in I had gained 3 pounds, now I have lost the three and back at square one again.

Hmmm go figure. I can't wait to hear how everyone else is doing.

AKuteyPie:

Thats good, I haven't got on the scale in almost two weeks, I have just been so busy at work and college that I don't have time during the normal hours to stop by my moms where the scale is. But I have probably gained it all back because I have been stressed and eating more chocolate. The good news is my AF is back to normal and I am not depressed and crying on a daily basis anymore. My LAP is a little over a week away, and I am freaking about that too, so that isn't helping with my dieting at all.

Congratulations,
Candy

Hi Ladies,
In 2 weeks I lost 1.5 lb I am 206.5. That means in the entire month I reduced 3.5 lb, that is very very bad. But I am not depressed. Me and my husband 10 days back decided, just to relax, otherwise life is becoming very boring, count calories, carbs, count steps.. oh.. I felt like I need a break.. Thats why I didn't post any thing last week. I am doing much better now.. we both are having lot of fun, I can tell almost I forgot the IF problem.

My AF didn't arrive, so today I have been to blood work, so that I can start Provera to trigger my AF. I have to actually go for this test last week, but as I said I want to relax for a while.

Candy- When is your IVF starting? I hope we will be cycle buddies.
Shay- Lots n Lots of Luck to you, hope you will tell good news to all of us soon.
AKuteyPie- All the best. Never let stress beat you. Try to relax, as much as possible. Regarding your LAP, try either not to think about it or read more and more about it. If you are in between, it will increase your tension.

Congrats to rest of all who are heading their target.

SRI

Hey Ladies...

I am so excited I wanted to jump in and post as soon as possible. I weighed myself today and I weighed in at 207 lbs... Yup, 207 lbs. That is 26 lbs lost in 2 months. I think it comes from the stress the Ex has been giving me.

Other then that. I am in the 2ww and it doesn't end until 9/7. Is anyone going to POAS or are they going to wait until Beta?

Hope all is well with everyone else.

Shay

SRI:

Assuming my LAP goes well and as suspected, I think October will be my IVF month sometime around the end of October if the LAP doesn't change my cycle again. When is yours?

Congratualations on being able to focus on your marriage and DH and for giving yourself a mental break from all the IF torture. Sometimes, that helps the next cycle go better. When I got PG, we hadn't thought about IF for almost 3 months and it was during the holidays after fun, family and relaxation!

I would love it if we get to be cycle buddies, I have only lost 9 lbs all summer. Hopefully, I am not gaining it back now.

-Candy

Shay:

I always POAS, unless taking Clomid because it can cause False positives. I am impatient that way. Also, because I spot during the month, break through bleeding and all, so if I take a test that comes out positive and then start to spot, I worry more.

Focus, Positive Thoughts, have you ever taken a relaxation class? It helped me a lot with the stress.

-Candy

Hannah-Candy,
I have never taken a relaxation class but I have been getting A LOT of messages since all the DH problems. When I'm stressed out, I go get a message. When it's all over, I'm too busy being relaxed to even think about the problems.

Shay

Hi,

I started Provera from yesterday. It might sound stupid, but I don't know I expected BFP in yday's test. I know it can not happen, it didn't happen when I was on clomid itself and now I don have 1 tube, but I dreamt 2 days before that I got BFP, I really prayed that this dream should come true. But no.. it just reamained dream.. When I said my DH that I am disappointed he said that if we want 2 babies at one time, we should wait, and we are almost going to start our treatment, it will be very good this time, he also assured that it will defenetly work.. So let us see..

SRI

AKuteyPie:

Thats good, I haven't got on the scale in almost two weeks, I have just been so busy at work and college that I don't have time during the normal hours to stop by my moms where the scale is. But I have probably gained it all back because I have been stressed and eating more chocolate. The good news is my AF is back to normal and I am not depressed and crying on a daily basis anymore. My LAP is a little over a week away, and I am freaking about that too, so that isn't helping with my dieting at all.

Congratulations,
Candy

Candy,
I totally understand the depressing part and the crying part. I'm just stuck in a stand still until I can afford to even begin my process, which is so depressing. And my biological clock is just ticking away like crazy. I too started getting AF on a normal basis since the begining of the year, and of course this month NOTHING, and I know it is due to the stress of me wanting to have a baby so badly I just cannot stand it. But what can I do, just keep saving and praying.
Let me know how your LAP goes, and good luck to you. Hey thats why we have each other here right, for support the bad days. ;)

I migh have to look into a relaxation class. I'm thinking of getting a massage mabye during my 2ww this month. It might relax me a little. I have been trying to write in my journal more lately. It seems to help when I need to vent. My grnadfather actually said you know mabye its not meant to be this last weekend. I fone more person tells me that I'm going to scream at them.

Hi...I'm new to the website, and I'm looking for a weight loss/TTC buddy group also! I hope it's not too late to join! I've got PCOS, I'm insulin resistant, and taking more pills than I care to! (my DH, as a gift gave me a pill sorter so I can keep track of everything! How wonderful!..don't get me wrong, I love him dearly for it). As of my last drs appointment (August 2006), I was given a goal of losing 30lbs by January. Well...holidays and "I'll get to it tomorrow, or next week" and lack of motivation, I've been stuck. Anyways, like Patty, my body deserves to be healthy and I know losing weight is the best place to start. So if anyone has any suggestions or is open to being an online girlfriend, I would love to hear from you!

Looking forward to being healthy and happily pregnant!
-Christine

Well I have to confess, my DH and I cancelled the LAP after learning that having it would mean our only way to concieve would be IVF, and I have never been good with hormones, So we have chosen to adopt.

I am praying for the right biological mother, my DH to come to a peace about us not being able to concieve easily or maybe at all naturally.

As far as the emotional ups and downs, I did 8 years and I am ready for something that can only look up. We saw a private adoption attorney the day of my scheduled surgery, the same one my parents used to adopt my now 18 year old brother who we saw 10 minutes after birth.

You all are still in my prayers and thoughts, keep up the things that make you feel good about yourself and don't lose your identity in the process of making a baby, when the baby comes you will lose part of your identity anyway because instead of being " Candy" you will be "his/her mother", "his wife", ....The list goes on. This decision has releived a large part of my depression and allowed me to start finding the me I lost in all this baby making, blood testing, sex debilitating journey I was on for 8 years. Also, I am reconnecting to my DH again, and our relationship is only getting better. So my advice is this, When you get bummed out take a month off and just go with the natural flow instead of the BMS schedule, Do the things you love and pray for babies.
-Candy

Welcome Christine:

I would love to be your buddy, but we are on the adoption route now so if that makes a difference let me know. Otherwise you can PM me.
-Candy