Today is one of those days that I know we all have. Some time back when I was having another one of "those days" my dh and I to make us feel better started throwing around baby names. Over two months we picked a boy name and a girl name. My husband is Itallian and he wants to have Itallian names. So we picked one, a beautiful girl name. My SIL just had her baby yesterday. I have been asking her what she was going to name her daughter for months. The reason why she couldn't tell me is because she stole our name!! I know this is childish but my heart is broken. She knew very well the name, because his mother was so pleased with it cause it was very similiar to her grandmother's name. We talked about the name several times. Even though we are not pg, we do things like naming our baby to make us feel better. That is one of the things that has kept me going through all of this. I can't express he hurt to my dh because he and his sister are so close. And that is great. But in his eyes she does no wrong. And it just feels like a kick in the stomach. Maybe I am over reacting, but I am hurt...

Thanks ladies, sometime it helps to say it out loud.

Ahhhwwww...Bobbie...You are so NOT over-reacting. I know that had to be very painful when you found out the name was the one you had chose and that she was very aware of this.

For whatever reason she had...even if it was meant with no ill-will toward you..she had to of known that it would feel like a kick in the heart. I hope that she at least broke it to you gently :rolleyes: :rolleyes: !!!

Now begins your journey to figure out an even more fitting name for your miracle. Sorry you had to indure this. :hug:

Thanks Goldie. I am going to be okay with this. It just means I get to use a sweet southern name I guess. I mean I am still hurt as can be. She didn't even tell me, when I called to check on her my BIL is the one who told me not her. I am just going to think of it like we had a part in naming Bella. She is my DH's first niece, his only sister's first baby so she is definitely a special little girl. It just hurts. But since we are so far away it isn't right in my face at the moment. I get really frustrated with in inlaws. They haven't even aknowleged the fact that dh and I are suffering through infertility. They do really insensitive things a lot. I just try to look over it, but as you all know it is hard to look over people all the time. We live in Hawaii, there is a 6 hour time difference from the east coast. They called us at every step of her labor. Waking us up several times. When I told my FIL that DH had to work and needed his sleep. To call us when the baby was born, he got a little mad. If we lived down the street and could make it in time for the birth to call that is one thing. But to call with ever check of her cervix...BLAHH!!!!!!!! Now I am ranting. Whoa. Thanks again. It is hard to keep all this inside.

:hug: Man oh man...I can feel your frustration on the screen. I can't believe she did not even call you BEFORE hand and at least tell you the name. And I kinda feel bad for you dh too because I know you said that they were close..but this has to feel "weird" for the lack of a better word, for him because he loves the both of you and to me choosing a name is VERY VERY important. I mean it can have huge emotional strings to it. I am so sorry for you. I hope that you can come up with another name that will mean just as much for you and dh both. And please ....Keep it a secret! :hug:

Oh yes!! This time it will stay under wraps until that sweet child is in my arms!! My dh is the best. That is the major reason I am not going to make a big deal about this to him. I don't want to cause any strain on any relationship involved. It's best to just sulk to myself. When we get pg I am going to torture those people!! I am going to call them at every check of my cervix!! Hopefully I go into labor in the evening here. So I can wake them all up!! (Chuckles!!) Oh well. DH and one of his buddies from the boat are going to be here soon. I made chicken and dumplins for dinner and you don't stand between southern boys and their dumplins so I had better get the bicuits on. We are all going to watch Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Maybe a little Johnny Depp can get my mind off of this!!

Good...you are a good wife...or I should say an example of a what being a truely LOVING wife is. So you know I am a southerner?..NC..so where is your dh from?..if you don't mind sharing?...dumplings...yummy..and I want to see charlie and the chocolate factory too..me and dh were going this past weekend but we never made it.

Actually this southerner was in your parts in 2002. Went to Oahu for three nights..Kauii for four night...and Maui for four nights. Kauii was my favorite. Absolutely feel in love with Poipu Beach. There was a huge hawaiian family having a birthday party in a hut built in the park right on Poipu Beach..and I kept watching them...they had such love for eachother..It was not a fancy party..just the very basics..but they sang and looked so happy. I kept thinking do they know how lucky they are to have that beach for their party back drop??...LOL!...I am sure they did. I hope to visit again. Loved the Polynesian Culture Center also...Cousin Appy was our guide..a man whose daughter was born on Sept. 11 2001 and he named her USA. Got to love him!..Talk to you later... :)

HI Bobbie

I think we have the same SIL. It just stinks dose'nt it.
I swear she is constantly telling people she is pg just to send me over the edge. Than oopps false alarm.

last year she thought she was. My neice's told me. Than they told me if it was a girl what the name was. Yes the name I always wanted for my daughter.

I know what a heart ache it is. But you will find an even better name. Hope your feeling better.

chicken and dumplings sound yummy.

My dh and I are both from Kentucky. And I love the Carolinas! We always spent our summers in Southport NC right outside of Willmington. I really miss the east coast. My dh and I went to school together from K-12 so I have known him and his sister all my life. We were only buddies in school and didn't even start any type of relationship until he joined the Navy.Even though my inlaws torture me!! There is so much history there that I have to be tolerant. We have lived here in Hawaii for 3 years and we love it. You are so right the locals have a sense of family that you don't find on the mainland as often. I have friends who could move to the mainland and find great jobs but they absolutely refuse to leave the islands and their families. To them it is more important than anything. I am glad you enjoyed your time here. It really is a beautiful place. PCC is a lot of fun. We go everytime we have family here. They just love coming out to visit. It still cracks me up that everyone is Cousin, Auntie or Uncle. All my friends kids call me Auntie. DH's buddy is from NC. Taylorsville I think. It is great, all of the southern guys from the boat hang out together. When we all get together our accents get so thick!! It helps to have people around that understand what it means to be from the south. I should go, they are finnished with dinner and ready to go to the movie. Thanks for talking me through this. I feel so much better!

OK...Makes me wanna sing "It's a small world after all."...LOL!..A friend of mine and I are going to Wilmington for a day trip to the water front and to dine at a place called Elijah's....great seafood! :) So beautiful right down town Wilmington. I only live about 1.5 hr away. I don't really know exactly where Taylorsville is...maybe in the mountain region?

Yes I loved Hawaii so much. Even after staying for thirteen days...we didn't want to leave. Unfortunately we did not get to go on the road to Hana. If rained while we were in Mauii...and we were told that it had not rained in months. So gives me a good excuse to go back! :) I have heard that the water falls are very beautiful on that road and the natives are very welcoming; they like for you to stop by and even want you to share a meal with you. Everyone was so friendly.

I am glad that you are feeling better...that situation is a rough mountain to climb. So...How was the movie? I think the original had a great lesson for us all.

Denise, I am sorry to hear your SIL is such a pain too. It really does suck!! And we get to live with them forever! Fun stuff huh?

Last night after the movie (which was awesome!!) I decided to take another OPK, yesterday was cd16 and when I tested at 2pm the line was faint. I took one at 9pm when I got home last night cause I was having wierd twingy pains at the movie. And it was positive!! I rechecked this morning and it was still positive so I called my RE's secretary to leave a message for an IUI apt today or tomorrow. I am so freaked out! I got a pos OPK on cd9 but I assumed it was too early and just had bms instead of making an IUI apt. But it is a no joke ++. I just hope DH will be able to go when he needs too. He has duty tonight and it is so hard for him to get a break at work. The man is rarely home by 6pm. AH!! This will be my first IUI so I am nervous. I guess all the drama with SIL my body is fighting back!! WHOO HOO!!

Goldie I love Willmington, such a beautiful place. And what I wouldn't give for a bowl of Brunswick Stew!! MMMM, that stuff is soooo good. We always stayed on Oak Island, I miss spending the summers there so much. DH and I plan to retire some where along Coastal NC. Definitely my favorite part of our beautiful country.

Bobbie

Good Luck. Its a piece of cake. I had 3 of them. One of the more easier IF tx. But I do understand being nevous. How long after do you have to lay there. I think we had to stay for 30 minutes.

Good luck

My gf said that they had her lay there for 25 mins after. She got pg with clomid and iui last year at the same hospital. I am sure I'll be fine. As long as my dh is there to hold my hand I can get through it. I hope that it works. This is my 6th cycle of Clomid and I have NEVER gotten a positive OPK. Even if I don't O and my progest levels are a bit higher I will call it a victory. The highest I have ever had was 1.11 I hope the timing on the iui is right. We are doing it tomorrow and I got the pos OPK last night/this morning.

WOA!!!!...That sounds soooo exciting. You deserve it Bobbie! Can't wait to hear all about it!

So this is your 6th clomid cycle?..Have you checked your Day 21 every month and did you have ultrasound monitoring? And do you mind sharing what they started you off with and did they increase it each month? This was my first clomid cycle and my day 21 was .5! :bawl: So this is a new game for me? I never have gotten a ++ OPK either. Wow!...I know you have got to be excited beyond words.

Update us when you can. :hug:

Yep...this is my 6th cycle. The first three were 50, 100, and 150mg. All on days 3-7. Then my RE started me on Metformin and wanted to wait 6 months to give it time to work. We started again 4 months ago the 4th cycle was 100mg, 5th was 150mg and this cycle was 150mg cd 1-5 adding 0.5mg of dexamethasone. I have been taking 1500mg a day of Metformin for a year now. I have pcos and the dex is to supress testosterone. I have had my day 21 progest checked every month even on the cycles without clomid. The highest my progest level has ever been was 1.11 and that was up from levels like .29 or .32. I don't get AF without Provera. The only ultrasound is the initial clomid check but they don't do folical monitoring. We have been TTC for 3 years now. I am really ready to give up on Clomid. I usually start OPKs on day 9 or 10 and take them until day 25 or even as long as cd30. I have never in the past 5 cycles got a pos OPK. It is unreal. I don't believe it honestly. I wish the RE would do more monitoring. Then I would know for sure. But I am picking DH up at 6:45am his command is letting him have the morning off so we can do what we need to do. He has to have his specimen at the lab before 7:30am so we are kind of pushing it. He swears he can do it in 5 mins (TMI!!) Then we call at 8am to find out what time our apt is. I know how hard it is when you finally get to the point of getting Clomid and hoping that it will be the magic drug we all pray for it to be. My gf got pg on her first 50mg cycle. But here I am almost 2 years later and still trying to get it right. Just keep the faith. You never know, 100mg could be your magic number!! Alrighty I am ranting again. It is just nerves!!