Hello all, :hismilie:

I am new to the board and just wanted to introduce myself. My husband and I live in Charleston, SC and have been trying to conceive for 8+ years. I have PCOS and am overweight so when I seen the "Full Figured and Infertile" section, I almost tripped over myself to click on the link! hehe
Not that anyone asked, but I am gonna ramble on about my attempts at ttc. I was diagnosed with PCOS back in 95 (I think), although I always knew I'd have difficulty conceiving. My first husband and I tried for about 4 years and saught help from my GYN who specialized in infertility. We did the basic stuff, started out slow on Clomid and eventually graduated to injectables like Metrodin (sp). We achieved one pregnancy, that was likely a mulitple because of my high HCG levels but sadly lost that pregnancy at 10 weeks. My second husband and I didn't "try" and became pregnant naturally shortly after we were married, but I lost that pregnancy too (I didn't know I was pregnant until I miscarried :cry: ). I struggled with what to do for a long time. Since I have a strong fundamental belief in God, I kept thinking "Let go and let God" hoping and praying that one day I'd say the magic word or the right prayer or cry enough tears and God would say..."Ok, that's what I was waiting for...POOF!" -I better stop talking about my struggles with God or this post will go on forever! lol- So to make a long story not AS long, my husband and I have decided to try again with medical assistance. Our RE is at Southeastern Fertility Clinic (home of the first successful artificial insemination). We went to him in September and got all the tests out of the way and my husband got the SA (which was fine) so now we are ready to take the next step. I have an appointment tomorrow. I can't describe how positive I feel about the whole process.
I joined Curves last week and so far I am loving it! lol It's perfect for my short attention span! I look forward to seeing the progress at the gym and the doctors. Now that I'm done rambling...I guess I'll be "talking" to you all soon. Any tips, words of encouragements or advice along the way would be much appreciated and reciprocated.

Thanks and loads of luck and prayers to all of you!
Rebecca

Hi Rebecca :hismilie:

Welcome to the board. Good Luck with your appointment today. Let us know how is goes. Curves is alot of fun. I use to belong. Now I go to a womens gym. Only because I like the variety of classes this one has to offer. I mean boxing I take a boxing class.lol loads of fun

Good Luck

Thanks for the welcome!

I went to the doctor's today and all went well. As luck would have it, it was day 3 of my cycle so I was able to get an ultrasound and 3 day lab done. The IUI coordinator phoned this afternoon to say my labs were perfect. Next Wednesday I'll go in for Sonogram since my ultrasound showed a slightly hourglass-shaped uterus and my former doctor noted a fibroid in my record (which I NEVER heard anything about before seeing this doctor) and my Dr now just wants to rule that out and check the inside of the uterus. They tell me it's nothing compared to the HSG (THANK GOD!). And then at the end of this cycle, we'll be on our way to IUI! WOW! Is there anyone else on this board doing IUI? I'd love to exchange experiences if there are. Wish me blessings!

Hi Rebecca,

Welcome! I love this site...the ladies here are great! Don't worry too much about the fibroid. Unless it is large and protruding in to your uterus tha tit should not be a problem. I have a small one but my RE is not concerned about it. Sometimes removing them makes it worse than them being there because of the scar tissue that it creates. I have done lots of IUI cycles, but I have moved on to IVF at this point! I wish you lots of luck. If I can answer any of your questions I would be glad to help.

Hi! I'm new here, too, and was so excited to see a full-figured board. You all seem so warm and welcoming and I was wondering if I could intrude???

I've had some struggles in this TTC journey and after a BFN this morning (this was our first IUI cycle) I've been doing some soul-searching, as well as a lot of self-pitying today.

We will try IUI this next cycle, but if that doesn't work, we will take the summer off and take a break from the temping, charting, clomid, etc. I'm getting tired of it.

I was diagnosed with two large fibroids before we began to TTC but was told to try when we were ready because fibroids often do not cause any problems. Well, I did conceive rather quickly only to m/c at 10 weeks. I then waited for almost a year to have surgery to remove the fibroids (they were 12 cm and 6 cm big! As one doctor put it, they were "huge!") After that I had to wait for an HSG which showed some scar tissue and a possible bicornuate uterus. So, had a lap done to remove the scar tissue and confirm the bicronuate uterus. That was December '04 and we have been TTC since. We have just done our 4th month of clomid and 1st cycle of IUI. I was pretty devastated this morning when I saw the BFN. (I'm stil holding out hope that it was too early...)

Anyways, sorry so long! I hope I can join you ladies and I wish all of you all the best in your TTC journey!!! :pray

Janet

Hi Janet,

Welcome!

Did you have a beta this morning, get AF, or HPT?

I am sorry that you are feeling down...I think that we all have our own pity party every now and then!!!

Hi!

Thanks Sylvia for the welcome! I appreciate it!

I took a HPT this morning - that's where I got my BFN. I have the paperwork for a beta but won't use it unless AF decides not to show up after all in the next couple of days.

Hi my name is kim, my husband,cousin and docotrs all aggree that i need to speak to someone about my infertility issues, and a therapist doesnt seem a good fit to me. i have miscarried 3 times in the last year, the last time last week. I have one child who is 4yrs old and we've been trying for a second. Since last week i've been questioning that decision alot. i am stilll incredibly guilt ridden over this miscarrige....there was a heart beat on Wednesday and by Saturday-nothing..... :bawl:
i spent most of my sons 4th birthday, having an iui that didnt take, and then got pregnant the next month only to lose the baby at 7 weeks anyway. i am very angry and wondering whats wrong with me that i cant seem to carry a baby longer than 8weeks....my supportive mother in law suggests that my weight might be an issue and that i should concentrate on losing weight before we try again. The doctors have done all the tests- we are just waiting on the most recent pathology back from last week- but they have found NOTHING...has anyone ever been told that weight could cause miscarrige? i have heard that it can make conception more difficult, but nothing i've ever found suggests it could cause miscarrige?!?!
thank you all for letting me vent...i know i'm rambling

MiserableMama - I am so sorry for your losses. :hug: :hug: I have found boards like these so helpful in the frustrating and hard times of TTC. So many people just don't understand unless they have been through it themselves. Most try to help, but often make things worse. You can vent and ramble and do whatever you want, anytime you want - that's what this is for!

I hope you begin to feel better. Enjoy time with your son - focus on the positive things in your life.

Have they tested you for clotting disorders??

Kim,

Welcome to the board! Being overweight is not a reason for recurrent loss! Have you been tested for PCOS? It is the most common cause for miscarriage in women, and is one of the reason's that cause most women to be overweight. There is a drug with the chemical name metformin (Brand names Glucophage and Fortamet) that can help to regulate your hormones and has not been found to cause problems in pregnancy. I am on the Fortamet, and if I do get pg with this IVF cycle then I will be taking it throughout my pregnancy to help regulate my hormones throughout my pg. I had one m/c on a TAB cycle and was not on the meds. I HTH!

Thank you all for your support, i have had so many tests done in the past 6 months i'm not even sure if i've been tested for PCOS? I am leaving in a few mins for my followup- post d&c visit with the doctors. so i'll have to check in my file. i do know that during this last pg my progesterone was very low- and needed to be supplimented- alot....my clotting disorders we all neg- but i was on a baby aspirin as a precaution...
i feel a lot worse this time after the m/c than i did for the first 2...i feel completely overwhelmed by everything.....and hopeless.....i know it could be the 2000mgs of progesterone i was taking for almost 8weeks, but i'm not sure i can go thru this again....i m hoping for an answer in the pathology today but not expecting one....i'm not even sure where to start/go from here....
:cry:

Hi Kim,

I hope tht you get some answers today. We are here when you need us.

Hi Ladies,
I also am new here and would love to join in.
I have been TTC for 6 yrs. I also am overweight and have PCOS. I had an IUI in Aug04 that was a BFN :cry: and then I tried again in Jan05 for another BFN :cry: . DH has MF also. So here we are June and have moved on to IVF (and a new RE). My ER is set for Tuesday. I really hope this works for us... :1pray
Sharon

Hi Sharon!

Welcome! I just wanted to wish you lots of luck with your ER. Did you have lots of follies? I am always curious to know how other PCOS IVF ladies do as I am about to start my first cycle my self. I wish you the best and I hope that this cycle works for you.

Hi Sylvia :hismilie:
I had a very slow start...but I finally got about 9 follies, they are unsure of how many are on my right ovary, they have a hard time finding it, they said its hiding under my uterus. The other day they seen 2 on the right that measures 15. I hope they don't have any problems tomorrow.
Sharon

Good luck Sharon!

Let me know how things go, okay?

Hi ladies!!

I'm new to this board too! My name is Venessa. I have been married for just over a year. My husband's name is Raymond. We live in Scotland, so please excuse me for not making sense as i might not use the same terms as everyone else.
I too am full-figured and infertile with PCOS for 10 yrs+. We have been TTC since Feb. I am very new to BB's and it took me a while to figure out the abbreviations! haha. We have been ttc since Feb '05. I have been insulin dependant for 6 years now, and for the last 2 years was told i'm insulin intollerant. So, i was given metformin 3x500mgs a day. 6 months later was put on 3x850mgs. Then 6 months after that 3x1000mgs. Went to see my family Doc in Feb and told me to stop taking the metformin as it wasnt "baby friendly". Saw baby specialist in April and was told to go back on but start with 3x500mgs. Since Feb i still havent had a "cycle". :-(

I can totally relate to some of the ladies here. I feel depressed sometimes.

Would love to hear from anyone
Until then
Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa
-X-

Hi Venessa, :hismilie:
Welcome, I also just started on here, learning the abb. also...LOL
I have also been on Metformin for about a 1 1/2 now. and my RE wanted my dose to be 2/850 per day. My family phy. only said it was necessary to be on 2/500 a day...so who knows.. :confused:

Have you had any other treatment???
I am doing my first IVF right now....YEAH !!!!

Sharon
:hopping:

Hi there Shaking, :hismilie:

Thanks for replying!!

No i'm not on any other treatments, family phy. did mention other drugs but wants to try metformin for atleast 6 months first. Other drugs might produce multiple babies and because i'm diabetic she claims it might be to much for my body.

Good luck on ur IVF!! Fingers crossed!!!
Hugs and Kisses
Venessa :hug:

Hi Venessa!

Welcome!

I hope that you do well on the met this time around. It just takes a while to get in your system. I take 2000mg a day myself. I wish you lots of luck with your journey!

Feeling abit sad today! :cry: Yet another collegue told me they were expecting!! Baby is due in Dec.

I dont understand why i'm the only one in my family to have PCOS. My mum has been regular as clockwork, my sis too. There is no one in my immediate family or aunts, cuz's with fertility probs but me!!! Its soooooo not fair!!! :bawl:

Did taking Microgynon 30 affect my fertilty??

In total i have been on Met for about 2 years now. I did get the stomach upsets at first then it settles in afew days. Taking 3x850mgs daily for about a week then switch to 3x1000mgs thereafter.

I have been searching what other med other ladies are also using. Namely Clomid. Anyone using this?

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa
-X-

Hi Venessa,

I get so depressed when I hear that others are pg again and again...my sister is the flavor of the month right now...it is always her or one of my SIL's.

As far as meds, I am doing injectibles (Follistim and Repronex) because I am doing IVF this cycle. I start my BCP supression tomorrow, and I have to go for my u/s and b/w. I have taken CLomid myself but have never responded well to it alone. I also tried that Letrozole. Lots of other ladies have had luck with both.

I wish you lots of luck in your journey!

Hi Ladies, :hismilie:
Just wanted to let you know my ER went ok...we have 5 embryos and out of that 3 of them fertilized, so we are having a 3 day transfer and go back on Friday. :stickyvib
Sharon

Hi Sharon! :thumbsup:

That is great! Good luck with your ET! I am sending a load of :stickyvib your way!!!!

Hey Sharon!! :hismilie:

Its Friday!!! Hope your transfer went ok today!!! Hope to hear from you with some good news!!

Lots of love and kisses
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Venessa
-X-

Hi Ladies, :hismilie:
Thanks for the good vibes....
Things went well today. one of our embryos didn't divide, but the other 2 divided well one was an 8 and the other a 6..my nurse just called and said that my bloodwork from today was wonderful.
Now hope for implantation...anyone know of anything I can do to help that along?????
Mh Dh was quite amazed today when he seen the pictures of the embryos,
he wants this as much as I do and its fun to see him excited....

I sure do know what you guys are saying about everyone around us getting pg. My BF and I are the only ones I know that have IF. I just try to remember how much we will appreciate our children when they come along...They sure will be the lucky ones..

I have been put on clomid for almost 10 cycles in the past 6 yrs and it really done nothing for me.
Syliva, I have to tell you when my RE first brought out those BCP, I just thought I was gonna cry :bawl: . None of my other RE's have ever suggested that..so I was surprised...laugh about how silly I was now but then I didn't want anything to do with it...
Well ladies, I am gonna get back to the bed rest...
talk to you soon,
Sharon
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Hi Sharon!

I am glad to see that things went well for you!

I started my BCP's yesterday, and I take them until July 8th and then I start Lupron. Stims start the 15th, and ER is tentatively set for the 25th, with ET on the 30th if we make it to 5dt :crossfing ! I am so excited to finally be at this point! Less than 2 weeks until Lupron! I was beginning to think that it would never get here since I have been waiting since Feb. to cycle! I am ready now! What meds did you do?

Hey Ya'll

I haven't posted lately, work and life in general has been crazy. I went to my sonogram last Wednesday because my RE wanted to make sure there were no fibroids and it looked real good. I was on cloud nine when I left. I called my husband to tell him what the doctor had to say and that our next step would be wait for my cycle to start and start the injectables. He said "And those are covered?" I said Sure...they cover 8 IUIs...I was positive they would cover the meds too...but, as luck would have it- they don't. So, I was really bummed especially because I have such a good feeling this time around. I was just perplexed about how we were gonna make it happen. SO we started looking into the insurance my husband's company offers and from what I can find out (they couldn't give me exacts because I didn't have a group number) it appears they DO cover fertility meds but open enrollment isn't until November *sighs* But thru it all, I am keeping a positive attitude since I've been here before and I know the trip is much easier to handle when I look on the bright side of things. SO, we did some math and figured that the meds will cost around the $350 mark so we are gonna try it out of pocket this coming month and see if the results are promising and then re-evaluate.

I just wanted to chime in and say I know how ya’ll are feeling about people around you having babies. There are several pregnant women waddling around work and one in my department as well as a man in my department whose wife is expecting so the word around work is “baby”. When I find myself thinking things like: “Why her??” I just remind myself that I wouldn’t wish this struggle on anyone and find hope in it.

I have all my fingers and toes, and any other appendages I can think of, crossed for you, Shaking2.

I’m not up on all these abbreviations; forgive me…what is BCP??

So ya’ll wish me well and send up a prayer if you will. I’ll start Clomid & Repronex next months along with my 1500mg Metformin and RE is talking about Avandia too. Any tips or advice ya’ll can give would be greatly appreciated.

Baby Dust,
Rebecca

Hello ladies... long time no post here. It is my first month off of clomid. Its killing me to sit back and let life happen. I am a control freak. Anyway, I am still taking the metformin. THe game plan is to do that 2 more months. Lose 20 lbs(should be easy with no clomid). I am already down 30 since January. I bought the clomid this month because it was the last time my gyn would prescribe it. I was afraid he would call it back if I idnt take it and left it at the drug store. Wouldnt it be funny if I got pg without it. Then I would have 150mg 5 day supply of clomid that I wasted 57.00 on.
We have no insurance but if I am not pg by Oct. We are going to break down and take out one of those credit cards that are for infertility treatments. Six thousand is what dh said we could spend. That means no IVF. Would that cover injectables and test?
Take care,
Sonya

Hi Ladies! I hope that you all are enjoying your weekends!

Rebecca, Good luck with your cycle. Believe me, I know how expensive IF treatment can be...I am doing IVF and have insurance that covers some things but we are still paying thousands and thousands out of pocket that we can not really afford to pay. We had to take out a loan this time. Beofre with all of my failed IUI cycles we did we put a lot of it on credit cards (you may want to check in to getting one with no interest) and taking money out of our retirement fund. We also refinanced our home at a lower rate and got some money there. To some it sounds crazy, but when you have been trying to have a child for as long as I have you have to decide if you are going to break out the big guns or give up, and believe my-I am not a quitter! We just take it one day at a time, and somehow that is working for us! I just try to stay upbeat! My meds alone are almost $3000. Yikes! I hope that you are able to work something out soon. BCP stands for birth control pills. They are given to start suppression in an IVF cycle before you start the Lupron injections that completely shut your ovaries down. They do all of this before starting other injectible meds (mine are Follistim and Menopur this cycle) for hyperstimulation.

Sonya, it really just depend on your clinic...for my IVF/ICSI we are paying close to $15,000 before you throw in alost $3,000 for meds. I did five IUI cycles and spent way more than that on them than on my IVF...we could have paid for our IVF and had money left over. Do you not have insurance at all? Sometimes they cover diagnosis, which would cover most of your testing. If your treatment is CODED PCOS then sometimes insurance will pay some of it too. I have had some insurance throught the years that have covered testing and some that has not. I wish you lots of luck!

Hi Ladies, :hismilie:
I am going crazy and its only day 2 .....I can't stand staying on the couch, but know I need too.
How early would I expect to feel anything???? I am so worried of BFN already...shouldn't be thinking that way.

I had my transfer on the 23 and my beta is 7-11...shouldn't I be able to test before that.


hope everyone is well
talk to you soon,
Sharon
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Sharon,

It is too early to be feeling anything if your had a three day transfer. Inpantaion should be around now though...please try to stay calm. Stressing will not help things, okay? Positive thought only, okay?!?!?!? If you do hae any twinges or cramping it could be a great thing, because a lot of ladies do that and get BFP's. Also a lot of people feel nothing at all and get a +, so kewep your chin up. Try to stay away from those evil pee sticks too because they are so often negative because people test too early. I wish you the best of luck in your 2ww, and remember that you are PUPO!!!!

Thanks for the encouragement........I am so mixed with feelings...LOL

I was wondering if anyone can help me....we usually go the the inlaws for the the 4th and its in KY about 5 hours from me....so I am undecided if we should go or if I should talk to my RE about it ????????
I know for sure it wouldn't be stressful...we usually just sit around and visit the family for a few days and thats about all...so wasn't srue...
Please met me know what you think
thanks
Sharon

Hey Shaking,

I think it would do you some good! You'll get out, get your mind off of things (at least from just sitting at home dwelling on every little twinge). Plus, I think it will help the time seem to go by quicker. It could be nice and relaxing which would also help your body relax as well as your mind.

Just my opinion tho.

Hi Sharon!

I would go if it is realaxing and you usually enjoy it! It will probably help keep your mind off of waiting for yuor beta!

Thanks Ladies!!!!
I think we are gonna do it and enjoy the weekend..DH needs this as well.
Sharon

Hi ladies, :hismilie:

How are you feeling, Sharon?
Did you go on your weekend away?

Well, I've got a phy. appointment this Tue. Just going to do some BW, coz of my diabetes.

Is it true that loosing some weight might bring on a period? Some ladies in the chatrooms talk about loosing some weight then becoming regular! Some say they were 165lbs and they got pg!! If its true then im gonna have to loose alot!!! :bawl: I dont even recall when i was 165lbs!!! :cry:


:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa
-X-

Hey Vanessa,
I don't know that you have to weigh 165 to get pg. I got pg at 228. I have been ttc since that pg but I got up to 263.They say there is no magic number. I am now taking metformin and have lost 30 lbs. I have had my 1st non induced period since I don't know when. I hope this helps.

Thanks Barancouda, :hismilie:

I'm glad that weight is not the main prob that i can't concieve. but i also have PCOS. i hope the met will help. it's just that it's been 4 months and i still haven't had a period, and i'm starting to loose faith in my own body.

I take insulin aswel as metformin but i can't seem to shift the weight. I have been on met for just over 2 years.

i have nothing going for me just now. :cry: it's just not fair :bawl:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa
-X-

I have pcos too... hope that gives you MORE hope!
Have you tried walking to get your weight going down? Whenever I need a good boost with my metabolism I walk and hour a day 3 times a week. It really gets it started. Another thing to try is lots of water and fiber in your diet.
Sonya

Hi Ladies, :hismilie:
Well we never did go away, DH decided he wanted to stay home after all, I think because of me...

Venessa, I know EXACTLY how you feel, last year I lost 50 pounds and it never seemed to do any good, I have gain some of that back since then. :cry: . My first RE said he wouldn't like to do IVF unless I lost 30 pounds, but my second RE has NEVER said anything about my weight. I know that has something to do with it, but I see heavy girls :preggo: all the time. Makes me mad too..Hang in there those it's gonna happen for us.

Well I go test on the 7th.....Hoping for good news...however I have been crampy this week, thats about all, no other feelings....
Talk to you soon,
Sharon :hug:

Hi Ladies :hismilie:

Thanks Sharon and Sonya for your kind words. I just love this BB!!! We are all in the same boat!! I feel as if nobody understands what i am going thru but you guys are really understanding!!! We need a group hug :grouphug:

Sharon, i hope all is well 2moro (Thursday) :pray :crossfing , hoping to hear some good news :preggo:

All the best ladies!!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa :kisses:
-X-

Hi Ladies,
Well...I got a BFN, so we are meeting with the RE on the 15th to see what our options are and if we can try again. :bawl:
We will see what happens then
Talk to you soon,
Sharon

Sharon,

I am so sorry sweetie! I hope that they have some answers for you at your post consult. Do NOT blame yourself (or let them!) blame this on your weight!!! Tons of BIG women get pg naturally every day and have healthy babies! I am sorry that your heart is broken right now, but just remember that we are here if you ever need to talk!

Hello Ladies, :hismilie:

I am soooo sorry to hear your BFN Sharon!! :cry: I agree with Sylvia, we are all in the same boat, big and ttc and also we are here for you. :grouphug:

Keep your chin up, :D it will happen :crossfing , hopefully soon for us all!! :pray

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa :kisses:
-X-

Hi Ladies, :hismilie:
Thank you soo much for your kind words... :hug: I am doing ok, I am looking forward to meeting with the RE and hoping to try again, this is my last chance to have my insurance cover it...so hopefully this is it.
I have to tell you ladies a story though....my neighbor (since i was little) knows what we are going through and I have talked to her often, well when i called her to tell her about our negative she said well you don't want to be preggo in the summer anyways...I swear some people just don't get it. This lady is so close to our family and that was so wrong to say, you talk about hurting
your feelings....
Everyone has said go do something you haven't done while going through this..treat yourself...and I told DH thats what I was gonna do...go buy a 2 liter of COKE....LOL

But, things are ok and I am gonna just look forward and go from there.
Talk to you soon, have a good weekend..
Sharon :hug:

:hug: Sharon. I was so hoping I'd come on here and see your good news.

Try not to be so hard on your neighbor friend. Alot of people don't know what we are going through and WANT to say something to make us feel better. I'm sure she was well meaning. You and I (and our friends here on the board) know that we'd be pregnant for TWO summers in 100+ degree weather if it meant at the end we'd have our baby...but people who haven't gone through our struggle just don't get it. We have to forgive them for their ignorance but love them for their intentions.

I don't want to sound all Mary Sunshine, but you will see that I try to point out the positive and silver lining. And I expect it from you all when I'm being down. My husband and I joke about that all the time, both of us can't be "Crazy" or sad at the same time cuz one of us has to talk the other through it.

Please know I am thinking of each of you everyday and pray for your success as much as my own because your successes give me hope.

My husband and I were supposed to start IUI this month but because we have to pay for the meds out of pocket we are waiting for next month after we've saved more money for any "unexpected" expenses. I just got off the phone with my insurance carrier, going round and round with them because they won't send me a detailed contract so that we won't have any of those expenses. According to the lady I spoke to, we will only be paying $30 co pay for the office visit for our IUI...which totally sounds too good to be true. You can understand my apprehension!

Anyways, wish us well next month. I have such a great feeling about this!! WOOHOO!

Baby Dust!
Rebecca

Sharon sorry to read about your bad news. I wish you well and keep you in my prayers, as I do all of you guys. Well said Rebecca! I think you have a point there. You can usually tell when someone is trying to make you feel bad. For the others they are trying to say kind words. I think sometimes we are more sensitive to others concern because we want this more than anything .Anyway Rebecca I wish I could have five friends just like you.You are so upbeat. I need all the positive thoughts I can get! Started my millionth round of clomid. I said I wasnt gonna do it anymore, and here I am. I had a long talk with my gyn before I agreed to do it again. He says it looks better than it did in the past. I am finally having a period on my own (from the metformin) but thats 2 cycles in a row. My period was only 24 days apart this time. I have never had it that close in all my life. I was 28 days at its shortest back in highschool when I weighed 120. I have been trying to stay away while I was taking time off from clomid. I have been extra sensitive lately. I have had take my cousin for an ultra sound last week. Everywhere I turned there was a pregnant lady. It was a prenatal specialist, go figure. I wanted to be there for my cousin because her mom kicked her out (she is 18) and her boyfriend left her. I just kept smilling even though I felt like crying. They were all complaining about how hot it is... and they had to pee!. well it was hot for me too, I had to pee... but I dont get a baby at the end. Anyway thanks for letting me vent. Wishing you all luck!
Sonya

Hi Ladies,
Well, I am back from meeting with RE, and he wants me to wait until Sept. to cycle, I will start BCP in August, he said he will change my meds and hope for better results,my eggs grew very slow and then we didn't have too many either, he said they think the Lupron suppressed me too much, he said they proably won't use that next time...he said it would be another med. started with a c..but can't think of the name that he said. So thats where I stand and see what happens. I am ok with that just knowing I am going back for another chance.
Talk to everyone later,
Sharon

Hey Ladies :hismilie:

My cousins are all having babies!!! :bawl: Now i've just found out my god sister is preggers too :bawl: She said she was preggeres afew months back but i didnt believe her cause she is always joking and years ago she had also said she didnt want babies cause she didnt want to get fat!!! :shakehead then again she has been married for nearly 7 years so i guess she thought it was time. Baby's due in December.

Well thanks for letting me talk about it, no one understands how i feel, i cant even talk to my mum about it!! She even asked me if i was preggers cause my tum looked abit big and i said no. i asked her if she was wanting a grandchild, she said no just wanted to know if i could afford one!!! I cant believe it!!! My own mum!!! :bawl: I still havent cycled yet :cry:

Need to get ready, brother-in-law gets married today.

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Love, prayers and kisses
Venessa :kisses:
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Hi Ladies - I am new to this board. I went online searching for a support group, and this website came up. Then when I saw this thread, I thought it was a good one for me to join!

I have really been needing someone to talk to, and see if anyone else is going through some of the same things. I am usually an upbeat person, but lately I have been getting really discouraged. I have constantly battled with my hubby over sex (can I say that on this board?) since we got married. He is just totally not into it. I have talked to him about it, and he just says he can take it or leave it. He is always buried in his computer. Then when we decided to ttc and it didn't happen in the first couple of months, I started charting things, using OPK's, etc, and since he has never been up for much :) I would have to tell him it was time. For the last several months it has been that way, and I'm just so tired of him rolling his eyes as he drags himself away from the computer. We have a great time together and love each other, but this has just been one area that is a constant battle. i can't tell you how many times in our first years of marriage I cried myself to sleep because he was on his computer while I was in the bedroom. He's involved in all kinds of internet sports leagues. (Yeah, I checked the history to see what he was looking at, and it was all sports.) Anyway, this weekend was just the last straw. This month I took a break from all the charting and peeing on a stick because I had been so stressed. I thought we could just take it easy and make sure to hit the days around ovulation. Well it worked for two days (every other, not everyday) and then Friday we had gone out and it was late so he wanted to get on his computer and check out everything he'd missed. He didn't want to do anything but that, and I'm pretty sure that was my most fertile time. I'm just at my limit. At this point it is not worth it anymore to have to remind him every month like some nagging woman. I'd rather not even try if he is going to have that reaction. I just don't understand.

I know you all don't know me, but I thought it might be good to get some advice from someone that can be objective. Sometimes your friends just want to make things better and don't know what to say...especially if they've never had trouble with fertility. I have been to a specialist, but I don't think it's worth it, until we work out our own problems. I just don't know what to say though, because we have talked about this before and there has been no change...

I really hope to get to know you ladies, and I promise I'm not like this all the time!

Thanks for any thoughts!
Jen

Hi Jen,
Sorry to hear about your DH not cooperating with you, I had similar problems with my Dh, in the beginning when I was charting and all that good stuff. I really did feel like this was all my porblem, he could escape to the computer and not deal with it. We have been TTC for 6 years now and when I finally went to see a RE., and talked to them, we found out that we have a male factor problem, so now the tune has changed, becasue he knows that its part his problem too..I understand what you are saying about not wanting to deal with an RE if hes not gonna listen, but it worked in my case. My Dh is a WONDERFUL guy and I am sure yours is too, but this is just not the most important thing to them, until they are hit in the face with it.
We have had 2 IUI's and 1 IVF all BFN, so now hes totally in the game and understands alot more then he ever wanted too.
I also have a friend that is going through this also and her husband was the same way, it wasn't important until he understood the extent of it and now, it's a whole diffent ballgame.
I hope this goes to show you that your not alone, and these DH of ours are alike....
Take care,
Sharon

Thanks Sharon! I also talked with a friend last night, who I know has gone through some similar issues with her DH. It is a relief to know I am not alone in all this, but it would be nice if DH would cooperate. He always talks about "when we have kids" but I have to remind him the way the kids get here requires his participation!

Sorry to hear you have not had any luck so far. I hope you will get a BFP very soon. I know how tiring and stressful it can be.

Jen

Hi Jen,
I could have wrote that one myself. I just read it to my husband. I asked him what kind of advice would he give you.... "he said I don't know?" I think he thought I wrote it. 1st thing I would ask you is ... does your husband know you know how to check the history. I would be a little suspicious that he might be clearing it. Guys tend to feel guilt and shame when the are having stress ( could be caused by infertility) and turn to porn to get the feelings they do from sex without the emotional attachment. If you are absolutly sure that is a non issue then I would consider counceling. There could be somethings he is going through that he does not want to share because he is trying to be the strong coping one? I guess unless I knew more about it I would not be able to say what I thought for sure. Then of course there is always that some people have a low labido, you could try spicing up the bedroom. Without being to nosey I or posting things that are way off, I would want to know more. If you want to send me a private message feel free. If you havent noticed I have been where you are.
I am here for you girl! Let me know if I can help.
Sonya